Possibly a very good relationship, however, one mega snag.

LegacyUser

Hi folks, I need to put this out here and get some advice.

I'll cut to the chase. Through mutual friends and college I met an amazing girl about 3 weeks ago. As luck has it, we met coming to the end of college term which means that she is at home for Christmas (different county to me).

We exchanged numbers the day after this initial meeting, both of us I think felt a "spark" and we have texted every single day since without fail, usually until early hours of the morning. Speak about everything and everything with the odd bit of flirting thrown in I feel like I've known her 3 years instead of just 3 weeks.

We met up once before the end of college about 2 weeks ago and, while nothing happened, there was definitely something there between us. We both agreed it was a great night (even though it was more or less just "hanging out" for a few hours). We had only known eachother about 3 days at that stage!

So, fast forward to now, she will be coming back to my county within the next 2 weeks and we'll most likely meet up for, a "date", if you will

Here is where the problem arises slightly, we are both in final year in college and when we graduate next October or thereabouts, she has told me that she would love to head to an Asian country to work.

So this does leave me thinking. I get the vibes that she wants something between us and I too would also love something to come of it, but when she mentions (asian country) the odd time my heart sinks a little.

I'd be thinking, if a relationship was to develop, come October there will be a big question of "what now?" if she decides to leave the country, because i dont plan on leaving myself. There would possibly be a lot of hurt

If it came to it I would NOT try and stop her, its her life and she can do what she wants with it at the end of the day.

I just want some expertise on these situations, I'll be honest, I'm 21 and have never had a proper girlfriend and this is the one girl that I have ever just so naturally clicked with and I like to think the feeling is mutual.

The leaving country thing is not set in stone i'd like to add, its just a goal on her part. We're both Irish.

I guess my options are:

1) Play it out and if something comes of the relationship we'll be happy and when October comes, October comes and she may/may not go depending on how she feels.

2) Go against the ideal situation and settle for friends, as we already get on great.

This maybe a completely stupid mind mess but just need to put it out there.

I'd never be a controlling person by the way and what she does is up to her, I wouldn't stop her from reaching her goal.

Im liking the thought of option 1, but would like some second opnions.

Muchas gracias

king_of_inismac

The simple answer is to see where the relationship takes you. If you do fall in love, she may well want to stay, or you may want to go.

You can't live your life hiding from opportunities on the off chance you might get hurt.

You don't meet people you really like that often in life!

wivy

Go for it! Its a long time until October and as previous poster said who knows what could happen in that time! She might just even be saying that to impress you what do you know! Not often you get that spark with someone..
If its meant to be it will all work out!

Katgurl

Go for it, you're both young and you don't know what the future holds.

BraziliaNZ

You're thinking way too much. This puts women off. Just chill out, you can't be sure how she feels about you yet but take it easy and see where it goes.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the input everyone.

I have seen things a bit clearer now and realised that, as mentioned, we're young and have nothing to lose really.

You may be glad to know that there have been "developments" since I initially posted

"Que Sera Sera" as such

Big Bag of Chips

Defintitely far too much thinking on your part!

October is forever away at this stage! You might get together and it could end for one reason or another before the end of January. You could be engaged by the summer. Her plans might never come to fruition. You may change your plans and ideas.

At this point in your life (and "relationship"!) there is absolutely no point in worrying about the "what ifs".. if everyone did that, nobody would ever step outside their front door!!

Go with it.. see what happens. September is time enough to be worrying about October!