My friend tried to kill herself :(

Airsoftmedic

First time posting PI

I work with this girl and she also lives in a house share with me.

We had our work night out on Tuesday and she was in good form.

I went home for xmas on wednesday morning.

I got a phone call this morning telling me that my friend is lying unconscious in Hospital after taking an overdose.

I am very shocked and can't describe how i am feeling. She is a stunning looking woman and is so witty.

I just can't believe it and it being xmas.

Jenneke87

Op, Im so sorry to hear that. This must be an awful experience for the both of you and I wish you both alot of strenght and peace.

I don't know if it will help but there is a little book called "dying to be free"(i don't know the author's name) and it describes how to best deal with the aftermath of a suicide or talking/dealing with someone who had tried to commit suicide. The book was very helpful for me so perhaps it can be of use for yourself and your friend as well.

Stay strong and take care,

Fentdog84

You never really know whats going on in someones head. Main thing is not to feel guilty or blame yourself, and just try and be there and offer her your support. It may have been a genuine suicide attempt or it may have been a cry for help. In any case, try not to get yourself too messed up over it.

Airsoftmedic

Thanks for your replies.

I'm not a boyfriend or anything like that.

I do know that she was seeing someone who broke her heart.

I guess it just got too much for her.

I deal with this type of thing in my job all the time, it really hits you
When it's someone you know.

Alas there is not much you can do, bar check if she's receiving any sort of professional care. I mean you could ask how she is, but only professionals can help.

Kevin Duffy

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Alas there is not much you can do, bar check if she's receiving any sort of professional care. I mean you could ask how she is, but only professionals can help.

Couldn't agree less. It's debatable how much responsibility the OP can or should take for supporting their friend/colleague/housemate, but depending on the prior relationship and the mutual receptiveness, there's plenty a friend can do in this situation, possibly even more than professionals can manage.

Jimmy Jerk Off

Has she given any indication as to what the motivation behind it may have been?

Loudova

Hi OP. I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. Of course you're feeling gutted and unsure of what to do next - I would be. However, I am not sure if delving into the motivation behind this is the most important thing right now. As other posters have said, reassure yourself that your friend is receiving professional help to get her through this crisis. I hope this isn't interpreted as harsh (because I don't mean to be), but please try to realise that this person's life - although she may have opened up to you - is not your responsibility. All you can do is make sure she has the appropriate support, which will include involving other friends and family, as it will be important for you not to carry this all by yourself. All the best, I hope it works out for you all.

LegacyUser

Im very sorry for your friend. I hope she will get through this.

Do you know does she have anyone supportive around her?

What is her family like? Are they supportive. The main thing she needs at this time is love and support and if she doesn't have anyone there for her it will be very hard for her to get through.

I experience feeling suicidal this time every year myself and other time during the year. It is because I have to spend christmas with my family every year even though I love them, they don't care about me and wouldn't say much as want to pick me up for the bus stop 5 miles away after a long journey. If I don't go I just have to put up with verbal abuse and I will never hear the end of it. So that is why I would feel like that but every situations different maybe your friend's is too. I wouldn't ever act on suicidal thoughts, although I came close to it, I try to distract myself away from negative thoughts as much as I can I would phone a helpline and talk to someone who may understand because I found it actually is very hard to find people who understand the situation I am in and talk to you honestly.

gpdv

It's sad, broken heart... I don't know how I would deal with it myself.

Maybe try to get your friend out, to meet some nice friendly people, do some activities, a new hobby or something. There is still some good people out there.

And let your friend know she is needed here. Like, ask for her opinion on this, on that. Get her mind off these bad things.

Recently I heard that expressing how you feel might help. Some people paint, some sing, dance, some punch a sandbag

Airsoftmedic

Thanks for your help.

She will be in Hospital for christmas and will be getting help for self harm in the new year.

She is pregnant and the guy she is seeing is a liar and she found out he cheated on her recently so all this hit her fairly bad.

Maple

Majorroadworks, I've deleted your post as it is more about your own situation rather than being constructive advice for the OP.

If you would like to start an individual thread relevant to your own experience, please drop me a PM and I will facilitate this for you.

OP, I am now closing this thread.

Best of luck

Maple