Change your sexuality

waterglass305

This post and a comment made on it got me thinking.
A guy suffered a stroke and woke up gay (read about it here: http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2056448811)

Now assuming that for the sake of argument that the stroke DID change his sexuality and somehow scientists found a way to change someones sexuality. What would the consequences be?

Would you change it?

Would you go from gay/bi to straight?


I don't know what I would do, I've done a lot of struggling and while I wasn't homophobic I never really accepted my sexuality and I think if such a treatment/pill existed I would've taken it just for peace of mind.

Even now, when I'm starting to accept myself, I still feel that if I could change I would.

What do you think?
For the sake of the debate you can change only once and you can change from straight to gay but only you can agree to change.
You can't be forced by crazy people to change your sexuality.

WonderWoman!

*sits quietly with a bucket of popcorn in the front row* This should be good

Slang_Tang

No. Being gay is part of who I am, and I'm happy with it.

I grew up in a small Irish town. I think being gay was the kick in the arse/motivation I needed to get out and establish my own life away from there.

There are lots of things in my life -- different books, films, people to name just a few -- I would probably have never encountered if I'd been straight.

saa

I still believe that guy only discovered he is gay or bi or perhaps sexuality is a very fluid thing for some people, I think what ever you are it can't be changed but for the sake of this thread I suppose I would be bi

Freiheit

I've opened up to being bi now,it's not anything that wasn't there before,but I'm now more aware of what was already there. I want to be like women but it's more admiration,more envy than sexual attraction. I feel a different sort of connection to some men,gay men in particular.

Killer Pigeon

People who say that they wouldn't change it are inherently biased ... wait ...

Kanoe

I feel myself drifting back toward asexuality again. I don't seem to be interested in men or women and it's probably been the most constant state I've known throughout my adult life. I would like to change it, if it's anyway relevant. Every now and again I will meet someone who will pique my interest but it never lasts long. I enjoy female company more than male company to the point where I would like to meet someone I could live happily with but in real terms it doesn't seem like that will ever be a possibility and I think I came to terms with that a long time ago. I have zero interest in seeking out a bloke as a substitute.

On a more positive note I do feel more comfortable with my own gender issues.

L.Jenkins

Seperating sex from attraction, I find myself less into the idea of sex and more into people. I myself am begining to feel that my attraction towards gender is becoming alittle blurred at the moment and would I change that if I could? Not at all. I'm into the idea of exploring where it will go for me in the future.

kisaragi

But if I wasn't gay I couldn't get away with being bitchy and fickle by passing it off as witty gay humour :pac: In all seriousness there's no way I'd change my sexuality, although straight people can be part of the queer community I feel like being gay has really made a big impact on how I've developed as a person... also I'd have to break up with my boyfriend :rolleyes:

I might start spiking some cute straight guys' drinks with gay pills however.... :P

floggg

I really like the person I am. I wouldn't change him for the world.

Ok, maybe i'd give him a six pack!

L.Jenkins

floggg wrote: »

Ok, maybe i'd give him a six pack!

Of budweiser?

baby and crumble

I dunno, I like myself, who I am now and what has gotten me to this point. Changing my sexuality would mean changing myself, and why would I want to do that? Plus, if I weren't gay, I wouldn't have my partner in my life as my partner- possibly as my friend...

WonderWoman!

I love who I am honestly .
Ive not got many girlfriends (I do get on well with girls-but a lot of guy friends
and never had a proper relationship with a woman but yet a man couldnt work my libido like a woman.

jaffacakesyum

I'd change it in an instant. Wouldn't even think twice about it.

Life is so much easier straight. And I'm bisexual so I know people will think I have it easy but believe me if I could be as attracted to guys as I am to girls, and have it just that way I would.

Aishae

ItsThatManAgain wrote: »

Seperating sex from attraction, I find myself less into the idea of sex and more into people.

I've never thought of a way to put how I feel about this into words and this describes it well!

Would I take a les-be-gone pill? No. I don't think life would be better if I were straight. Life wouldn't be the same though cos I wouldn't be the me I was born to be.

Sonics2k

I see no reason anyone should change anything about themselves.

They don't like it, their problem. Feck em :pac:

Moon Indigo

Think for me it would have depended on my age but were I am now then no I would not change. When I first came out and the bit of hassle that came with that then maybe but as others have said I just would not be me then.

I sometimes wish straight people could take a pill to view life for a moment through a gay persons eyes! The simple things they take for granted such as freely holding hangs or feel the looks that are sometimes thrown your way when you kiss your partner or something now that's a pill I would sometimes like to slip into a straight persons drink

Kranium

To live the straight life would be easier so I would change my sexuality for that reason alone.
I also get the impression that when you're dealing with people and they know I like women they dont tend to take me seriously

Sonics2k

Kranium wrote: »

To live the straight life would be easier so I would change my sexuality for that reason alone.
I also get the impression that when you're dealing with people and they know I like women they dont tend to take me seriously

Never change who you are. It does, after all, make you an individual and a person.
Sexuality is such a minor aspect of a person, it really means nothing on the grand scale of things.

If someone does have an issue with you being gay, well frankly it's their problem, and for all they know they're losing out on a great friend.

WonderWoman!

You're from Cork? :eek:

Sonics2k

Born and raised!

Well no, not really born. But yes!

WonderWoman!

Sonics2k wrote: »

Born and raised!

Well no, not really born. But yes!

We should Fxckin hang ! you never told me boyo what part?

stephen_n

Straight people have problems too so just because they may not have to deal with the issues that gay people do it doesn't mean your life would be automatically better just by having a different sexuality! The thought that this would be possible is scarey tbh because it would lead to some gay people giving up before getting the chance to become comfortable with themselves, which is a sad thought. No I Wouldn't change my sexuality as although it is not who I am it's an integral part of the person I'm becoming!

Chuchoter

I probably would. On the one hand, being gay is ****ing difficult and on the other hand, boobs are really great. I don't know which one wins in that situation tbh.

WonderWoman!

Chuchoter wrote: »

boobs are really great.

Haha got that right

baby and crumble

Chuchoter wrote: »

I probably would. On the one hand, being gay is ****ing difficult and on the other hand, boobs are really great. I don't know which one wins in that situation tbh.

Boobs win EVERY time.

jaffacakesyum

People are missing the point here. I love boobs as much as the next gay/bi girl. But if you could change your sexuality you wouldn't 'miss' boobs cos you wouldn't find them attractive in the first place. It's like getting flashed by that thing in Men In Black :pac:

Kajor

Having moved from one to the other already, I don't think I'd be bothered changing back again. Unless, of course, it happens naturally.

Kranium

I'd change in a heartbeat if I could

cafecolour

I don't think I'd bother changing it back. Odd to say, but I think I'm more interesting as a gay man in some ways than I would have been as a straight one.

I wonder if any straight people would decide to try being 'gay' (especially if it was a pill and they could do it for a month and then go back). I remember reading a science fiction book when I was younger where, at one point, the 'world' government turns everyone gay to deal with the massive overpopulation.

waterglass305

stephen_n wrote: »

Straight people have problems too so just because they may not have to deal with the issues that gay people do it doesn't mean your life would be automatically better just by having a different sexuality! The thought that this would be possible is scarey tbh because it would lead to some gay people giving up before getting the chance to become comfortable with themselves, which is a sad thought. No I Wouldn't change my sexuality as although it is not who I am it's an integral part of the person I'm becoming!

That true, being straight isn't easy but on the whole a hell of a lot easier. If I had become stright in my early years I probably would've still been a miserable teenager but a lot less self-conscious. To be honest being gay caused me to have a lot of hang up that only now am I finally getting over.

I think if such a pill (I hadn't imagined a change-your-sexuality pill but some sort of machine with doctors around and legal system to make sure you want to make the change) existed I would've taken it and I say a lot of people would've taken it in their early years.

In fact if such a procedure existed, it's my opinion that the lgbt community would ceased to exist in a few years.:eek:
I suppose I should ask, if such a pill was around when you were 13 or thereabouts would you have taken it? Because thats when we'd be most 'venerable' to changing our sexuality, I'm lucky to be old enough to say "ok I'm going to deal with being gay and make the best of it", at 16...not so much:(

13 year old me: YES
16 year old me: YES PLEASE!!
21 year old me: I don't know
23 year old me: Prob not (not sure).

As a side note it would be fantastic to make certain pricks I know who think gay marriage is immoral to get a taste of what we have to go through