Feel guilty even though I shouldn't?

LegacyUser

I went out for my work Christmas do on Friday night and walked home with one of the men in my office. I said good bye to everyone else at the pub, peck on the cheek, hug, happy crimbo etc. However, when I went to leave him and give him peck on the cheek, he kissed me on the lips. Not a proper kiss, more like a quick peck as if he missed my cheek. Now however I feel really awkward and guilty. I don't want to tell my husband, a guy kissed me, because he really didn't, and even if he had tried, which I honestly don't think was his intention at all, I wouldn't have kissed back. But I still feel kind of cringy and guilty. Should I?

barleybooley

There's not really any point tbh, OP. It'd just upset him over a non-event so if it was me, I'd just leave it. Don't be harsh on yourself, whatever his intentions were, you had none and you don't think he did either. An accidental peck on the lips is nothing to get upset over IMO.

fungun

you dont get 'accidentally' kissed on the lips, he meant it.

only you know your husband op, looking for advice isnt that useful for you i think. Personally I think you did nothing wrong and its not like he snogged you or anything so there is no reason to say anything....because saying anything could make your husband feel slightly aggrieved and annoyed with this guy and not too happy when you are out again.

However I would keep this in mind and dont let yourself get into a similar situation with the same guy again

jackie1974

I'd say nothing, you have no reason to feel guilty but as another poster said, avoid being alone with the guy again because he probably did mean it.

The fact that you feel guilty over a little incident shows you are honest and faithful so relax you've done nothing wrong.

Miss Fluff

Let it go, I wouldn't say anything. There was clearly no intent on your part and you've nothing to feel guilty about. I agree with the others that there probably was on HIS part however but telling your husband about what amounts to a non-event is going to cause trouble where there needn't be. You did nothing wrong

LighterGuy

Can't agree more with the above....
It was his intention. But no need to tell your husband. You didnt do anything wrong. This work mate did. So just forget about it... and be careful around the work mate in future. Wouldnt be surprised if he tried it on more so with you again.

neveah

fungun wrote: »

you dont get 'accidentally' kissed on the lips, he meant it.

Of course it can happen! I remember one time when my friend was greeting one of my other friend's fathers, She would have known him very well and whatever way they leaned in to give each other a kiss on the cheek, they got it wrong and they kissed on the lips! It was hilarious! For me anyway!:D I couldn't stop laughing. My friend and my other friend's father were mortified of course. They just brushed it off and pretended it never happened. I am still laughing about it now as I write this!:pac:

OP don't worry about it. It can happen. If your gut feeling is that he meant nothing by it then you are probably right. He is probably just as embarrassed about it as you are. Just forget about it now. You have done nothing wrong at all. No need to tell your husband about a non-event.

LegacyUser

tbh, its not your fault. My fiancee told me the same thing after she got in from a night out, it happened in the pub but what can you do when your taken by surprise? Depending on how you think your husband would react to this, it might be best not to tell him but you did nothing wrong.

cafecolour

That's really not worth an iota more of headspace. Forget about it. Unless you actually want to cause drama in your relationship (or see how your husband would react) by bringing up a non-issue as such.

barbiegirl

You can accidently kiss on the lips. When an old boss was leaving I was saying goodbye to her, went to give her a hug and kiss on the cheek, she turned slightly or I did, not sure which and we ended up with a very quick lip kiss.

Now I'm female, not gay nor is she, and neither of us meant it, it was a complete, embarrassing accident

OP don't worry not your issue whether he meant it or not, cause there was nothing in it for you.