Wrong to be thinking this way?

notusually

Thanks for the responses. I think i heard what i needed to hear.

I don't think she wants to cheat, i don't think its like that. But i do agree it is an "options open" type of situation. I understand its nice to have someone chasing you. But I think there is a borderline and she is crossing it. Maybe it is a test like some of you said. In either case i'll be bringing it up with her.

Maybe i am being to nice about it. Its not sitting right me with anyway so thanks for calming my fears that i'm not being paranoid.

Thank you all for the responses. I'll leave an update when i can. I've removed post for annonimity purposes.

Miss Fluff

There's a big difference between being trusting and being taken for a total eejit. This guy evidently wants to get into her knickers and while she intends to be faithful to you no doubt, meeting up etc is just inappropriate. Put your foot down and tell her you're not at all comfortable with it - sounds to me in a small way like she's pushing it to see how much you'll put up with. Don't allow yourself to be walked all over...

A0

Make a little effort, please open your eyes :-) The FB message saying he would like another dance would have been a big issue for me and she wouldn't have gone to meet this guy again for "another dance". So it's a no way answer regarding meeting this guy in another country.

Sonics2k

He want's more, she's possibly borderline.

Be wary OP, but don't let yourself go mad with jealousy and trust her.

lumjm

Just to let you know, a girl who is keeping in contact with a randomer who tried to hit to her on a night out is not the norm, sorry but it sounds like shes keeping her options open. If you want any kind of normal faithful relationship with her you are going to have to say to her this makes you uncomfortable. Your whole post is going on about how cool you want to be, no issues with trust or insecurities etc. If a guy played that cool with me it would drive me mad and actually probably try to make him jealous or get a reaction! I know I would want a guy to show a bit of passion, not go mad at her but show her you care. What you are feeling is normal and what she is doing is out of line.

LegacyUser

Oh dear OP, I'm sorry but you are being *incredibly* gullible here.

She is interested in the other guy and at the VERY LEAST is leading him on for an ego trip but more realistically is playing away right under your nose.

I'm a woman and that's giving it to you straight. Sorry but you've over-invested in all this trust talk WAAAAAAAY too much. Trust is earned not just blindly given in the face of all evidence to the contrary.

LegacyUser

I am the most trusting guy and don't have jealousy issues but if my gf did that to me I'd tell her that she needed to

To accept someone she doesn't know as a friend on FB who had just hit on her is just plain wrong.

What are you thinking dude? Surely this bothers you......

You said "yeah, sure, let's go out and meet a randomer who chatted you up, hit on you and sure we;ll all have a great night out together"...... as someone said, there's a big difference between being trusting and being an eejit.

I'd tell her that you don;t trust this guy and that you'd rather she knocked him off facebook as you don't believe that;s all he wants.

If she respected you, based on all of the above, she should do that for you.

notusually

Thanks for the responses. I think i heard what i needed to hear.

I don't think she wants to cheat, i don't think its like that. But i do agree it is an "options open" type of situation. I understand its nice to have someone chasing you. But I think there is a borderline and she is crossing it. Maybe it is a test like some of you said. In either case i'll be bringing it up with her.

Maybe i am being to nice about it. Its not sitting right me with anyway so thanks for calming my fears that i'm not being paranoid.

Thank you all for the responses. I'll leave an update when i can. I've removed post for annonimity purposes.

LegacyUser

Foreign guy completely fancies your girlfriend, he's proved that by asking to meet her to "dance" and by being her best Facebook buddie. Shes admitted to you she thinks he's cute and would have liked to kiss him (if she wasn't with you). Now she's going to meet him in his own country where he'll travel 200 km for a "dance". Ultimatum time I'd suggest, either she cuts contact with him or you two split up.
Would she be happy if you had a similar best girl pal?

Taltos

Closing thread as OP has changed their initial post.

Taltos