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friends with benefits?

  • 12-12-2011 1:52am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi all, regular boardsie gone anon for this.

    Recently came out of a long term relationship and am having regular and VERY HOT sex with a friend of mine.

    We've had a chat about not wrecking the friendship and how they don't want to crowd me/be a rebound so we should be careful... but I am falling for this person, hard. I think that this is mutual as weve talked about it but they blow hot and cold, not sure if this is lack of interest or trying to give me space.

    I honestly dont think its a rebound but accept that I dont want a relationship so soon, and yet I feel so mixed up about this.

    I suspect this is a common enough situation but I just dont know the rules.... any advice appreciated!!


Comments

  • #2
    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    Be very honest with this person. Otherwise one or both of you will get hurt.


  • #3
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    It stops becoming a Friends With Benefits situation the moment either one of you develop any romantic feelings for the other, then it's going to become a total headwreck if you're still conducting this under the guise of it being a casual/no-strings set-up.

    You need to have a very honest chat about where both your heads are at tbh as it seems like this could get messy/feelings hurt unless you're both very clear re your expectations...


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    op here, thanks for the replies.


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