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Need practical help with bouts of rage

  • 10-12-2011 11:52pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I am middle aged, have a pretty dark and sad childhood, was an alcoholic, am a sufferer of depression and so on. I live alone with a dog. I adore the dog. However, every so often I get into a fit of rage and the poor animal bears the brunt.

    It makes me sick, within minutes of the event, I feel sick with guilt. I see a counsellor and she refers to this as my super ego. Not sure what she means by it. I have told her honestly about these bouts of rage and described one or two explicitly. I desperately want to stop hurting my dog. It's not just my current dog, I have a history of this. Can anyone suggest anything or offer me any advice or help. I adore that animal but she is so vulnerable living here with me.

    When a fit of rage happens, its quick. It's normally caused by something the dog does (stuff that all dogs do etc. I'm not blaming her at all, just describing the trigger). Before I know it the damage is done. Its that fast. So fast that I do not seem to have any time to intervene or control it in anyway. The irony is, I adore all animals, I have done work with animal charities, donate to them regularly and cannot stomach hearing any stories of cruelty. Yet......

    Just to pre-empt any suggestions, I live alone on dissability so am on a very tight budget. I have been in counselling on and off for years. I have seen psychiatrists over the past 5 years. Just had an appointment with a new one recently. I told him about this but it did not seem to register with him.

    Please don't tell me to give up my dog. But I need some help! I would do just about anything to to able to take my anger and throw it away. I hate it. I hate my anger. I love my dog!


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  • #2
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    OP, we are not qualified to give you advice on how to refrain from animal cruelty.

    You should discuss this more with your counsellor and get some anger management classes.

    I would also recommend you do the kindest thing for your dog and find them alternative living arrangements until such a time as they are safe to stay with you.

    All the very best.


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