looking young

LegacyUser

I am 24 but only look about 16/17 its really starting to get me down. I dont hink im ugly or anything but i just look so young. I see everyone i went to school with looking like normal people and their age and im here like a freak still looking 16.

I have stopped going to pubs clubs because i always get asked for id, I show them my id then i get questioned whats ur date of birth, star sign etc and sometimes get turned away its so embrassing. I was in a pub getting food and soft drink but they would not serve me cause i had no id on me i was not even getting drink!! its so embrassing i dont even want to go out anymore i feel like everyone is staring at me thinking why is a 15 year old in here.

its not just going out i feel weird about, things like going for a weekend break with my bf i always gets strange looks at check in at the hotel, going to get a wax which ended up them asking did my mother give permission i have never went back, getting my hair done people treat me like a little child im sick of it. everyone i meet is always like omg you look so young its makes me so mad.

I dress like a 24 year old but people still treat me like a child. I would give anything to look my age and im sick of everyone telling me ill be glad when im older to look young but its getting me down so much lately and stating to really affect my life. I think im the only person who would love wrinkles!!
any advice would be very welcome.

Ickle Magoo

I was/am the same and while it's a bit annoying when you are having to constantly convince people you are an adult, the flip-side is it is fantastic when you are older and still have that baby-face!

Make sure you have good photographic ID with you at all times, pay no heed to the strange looks, any comments from anyone who has no right to ask them can be ignored and take solace in the fact when others who look much older now are 30+ they'll probably still look much older and will hate it - while you will probably be thanking your lucky stars for still looking much younger than you are.

All the best. :cool:

silly

I looked young too when I was your age.
Always asked for I.d. When I started going out with my now husband, I was 26 and he was 30 and his friends were shocked that he "got with" an 18/19 yr old!
I just laughed it off.
I had a child when I was 21 also and to this day I still have to tell people that " no, I didn't have a child at 13 yrs old!".

Anyway, I'm 31 now and I guess you could say I am catching up with myself.

What way do you wear your hair? I find that pony tails make girls look younger, so you could try a different style?
You can't give yourself wrinkles ( well, you might from all the frustrations!)
But love yourself for who you are! So you look young, does it really matter what strangers think of you?? All that matters is that you are healthy, have family and friends that love you, and you are a beautiful young woman! Embrace it!

sambuka41

Oh I hear ya!!!! It can be very frustrating when people don't take you seriously cause you look like a teenager. I worked with teenagers and new kids would think I was one of them rather than staff!!! I feel for teenagers cause people are really condescending to them (having been an adult an being spoken to like a teen gives a bit of insight)

But you have to find a way to laugh it off. I'm not the most outgoing person but I've got a few jokes that I use over and over when I'm asked for ID. (i'm 29) If I am out with my bf and the bouncers ask for ID, I give them my passport and just before they say anything I usually joke and ask them not to give my age away, wink and say yer man (my bf) doesn't know how hold I am!! It turns the whole thing into a bit of a laugh rather than embarrassment.

Other times I tell them I have found the cure against ageing only its working too well.

TeddyTedson

cupcakestar wrote: »

I am 24 but only look about 16/17 its really starting to get me down. I dont hink im ugly or anything but i just look so young. I see everyone i went to school with looking like normal people and their age and im here like a freak still looking 16.

I have stopped going to pubs clubs because i always get asked for id, I show them my id then i get questioned whats ur date of birth, star sign etc and sometimes get turned away its so embrassing. I was in a pub getting food and soft drink but they would not serve me cause i had no id on me i was not even getting drink!! its so embrassing i dont even want to go out anymore i feel like everyone is staring at me thinking why is a 15 year old in here.

its not just going out i feel weird about, things like going for a weekend break with my bf i always gets strange looks at check in at the hotel, going to get a wax which ended up them asking did my mother give permission i have never went back, getting my hair done people treat me like a little child im sick of it. everyone i meet is always like omg you look so young its makes me so mad.

I dress like a 24 year old but people still treat me like a child. I would give anything to look my age and im sick of everyone telling me ill be glad when im older to look young but its getting me down so much lately and stating to really affect my life. I think im the only person who would love wrinkles!!
any advice would be very welcome.

I used to have the same problem. Now I actually look my age (25) though so I'm happy with that.
I remember trying to get into night clubs and being turned away because they thought I had a fake ID, although they believed the rest of my friends:rolleyes: Why would I be with them if I was a lot younger!
I used to make them buy my alcohol because it just got too embarrassing.
Now though I wouldn't care. It's not a bad thing. In years to come you'll look back and wonder how you manged to be bothered by it. :P

Taltos

I personally put it down to good genetics.
Think about it - if you take care of your skin - when you are in your 30s / 40s or whatever and all of your friends are gettig botox or whatever else will be the rage you can sit back and just enjoy looking naturally young.

Remember - take the positives here

LegacyUser

thanks so much for all the replys. it has made be feel so much better knowing im not the only one who feels like this. Im so happy i wrote it now i feel great i think all of you are just so thoughtful. you have put a smile on my face
i THINK I JUST NEED TO GET OVER IT who care what people think iv got id.
xxx

hi op
im 26 and i still get asked how's school going - sometimes college, which is an improvement :rolleyes: when i was about 23, i was travelling to germany to visit my ex- the air hostesses asked was i travelling alone and asked to see my passport! from the looks i think they thought i was a kid.

try changing your demeanour a bit, and pitching your voice a teeny bit lower. really, it helps.

i also find if you act like you're expecting to get ID'd or something, you look more suspicious and more likely to be.

maybe wear makeup/ wear your makeup differently also, that helps a lot.

ICANN

Sometimes I think people don't get id'd because people think they look young but because young people look so old!!!! I teach teenagers who are 12-16 and seriously, some of them look like they're nearing their 30s!!! The amount of makeup the girls wear make them look so old and the young fellas just look old. I believe that I look my age- not younger or older but these kids make me feel like I'm too young to be teaching them!!

I also think people presume someone is younger when they're shorter and older when they're taller- even as adults.

And if it is a case that you actually look young op- then embrace it, you'll be glad of looking younger when you're in your 30s and 40s

ando

Hey, I'm 30 and I still regularly get asked for ID. I often then get a look of amazement and comments like "how do u do it??" thrown at me. It was frustrating before and in my early 20's and to be honest it did hold me back as ppl completely underestimated me in certain things, interviews for jobs, women etc! They just saw me as a kid (who cud have been older then them!) and thought I was a pushover or whatever, but who's laughing now I'm loving it now. I'm 30, still getting asked for ID while other peeps my age are desperately trying to hold off their age. They had their time in the light, now its my time Trust me, as u get older and after mid 20's in particular u will see this as an advantage and peeps will quickly go from looking at u as something they can walkover to someone they envy a lot  

foxinsox

I know you said you are sick of hearing "You'll be happy when you are older".

But...

I was the same when I was younger, even though I was older than most of my friends, it was always me who got stopped at the door and asked for ID, I like you felt a bit annoyed by it. When I was your age there wasn't ID cards as there is now, so you could generally blag your way into somewhere.

It never really bothered me much.

I'm 43 now, can pass for early 30s on a good day..

To be honest with you some of my female friends have turned into aul ones

So embrace it and I promise you that you'll look back on this in the future and think YYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYY!!

meoklmrk91

I recently got asked if I was taking part in the local TY Christmas play, I am nearly 21 and in college, this always happens to me.

Whenever I am buying anything that may require an I.D. I always bring my passport with me. However I have noticed it has to do with confidence as well, I used to hate getting carded then I just stopped caring and once that happened I stopped getting asked. You can't fake it, if you are self conscious about it then people will be able to see the telltale signs and reinforce the idea that they are right to be questioning this.

JKM

I was the same for years OP. I have had people ask (not as often as before unfortunately) how school is going.... I am 28 :rolleyes:
It used to annoy me a bit but I just used to laugh it off. I frequently got stopped for ID when my younger sisters and friends just walked in ahead of me to a pub/club.
I've noticed lately that I am actually dissapointed that i'm hardly ID'd any more! I'm freaked that I must be starting to look older. :eek: I was totally chuffed recently when I got ID'd in an off licence. It genuinly had me smiling for the rest of the day.
Don't wish your youthful looks away OP, you'll have plenty of time for wrinkles later.