Friend not happy with relationship?

LegacyUser

I have a great best friend *Mark who i've known nearly 2 years, we get on the best, im really honest with him .. (extent of that- told him i liked him shortly after meeting him, nothing came of it and we're still good) he's been such a great friend the past year with different things that have been going on, we hang out, go out together , go out with other people etc..
long story short, i met a fella at friends 30th recently, kissed him exchanged numbers. , Mark wasnt there but found out anyway and was slagging me asking why id not told him etc.. ( i dont tell him these things)
anyway hadnt spoken to him for about week or so after this and was out with new fella etc and planning another date with him so was chatting to mark in meantime and mentioned this (had text him before about this certain date) and from beginning of conversation he was really off with me, actually hurt me.. I thought ok he's having a bad day, but in all times i've spoken to him, he's usually cheery and he'd rung me on this occasion so its not as if i rung him and caught him on bad moment.

there's nothing happening with me and him, he's not interested in me, i know that. and i'm well over him but I don't know is it cos i'm with this guy..

Havent heard from him since either and that was 2 weeks ago, i've texted him asking him something and he replied the answer but thats it. I know he's got stuff on etc but usually he'll get in touch.. also we cant meet up cos im not in dublin anymore.
i'm prob just being a girl and overthinking this but i consider him my best friend.

curlzy

Ask him straight out is he angry over something, if he's not it should be grand now but if it's not you have your answer. If he is sulking then really you should steer well clear. What a head wrecker, doesn't want you when you wanted him but now you've met someone he's peeved? Steer well clear and be glad that you didn't end up in a relationship with that man-child.

Big Bag of Chips

Even though he didn't want to go out with you, he still quite liked the fact that you liked him...

Now you've moved on.. he's a bit peeved that he's not first in your affections! Ignore him. Carry on as you normally would. Don't go out of your way to contact him or "make it up" to him. You haven't done anything wrong. He'll either come around or he won't.

If he was any sort of friend he'd be happy for you.

Unless its something else completely that you don't realise!

nono2011

it does seem like he is a bit put out alright for some reason but as curlzy said he wants you when someone else does and not when you wanted him.. trust your instinct on this one text him and ask him straight out if there is something bothering him rather than second guessing everything, thats one of the good things about being friends you are able to tell/ask him anything.:)

Miss Fluff

Sabina7 wrote: »

i'm prob just being a girl and overthinking this but i consider him my best friend.

If he's your best friend then you really should be able to phone him up and ask him what's bitten him on the arse. Stop pussy-footing around and imagining all sorts - ask him straight up why he's off with you.

LegacyUser

he is actually my best friend, i love him to bits but this has set me back a bit, he's from my county too so i will prob see over xmas but i will call him at weekend to see what story is, if he's back to normal fair enough but if he's still off I'll "have it out" with him,.. surprised i've not asked him yet tbh cos i am way too honest with him..

funny yee say about that him not been first in my affections anymore, cos i know its not that he likes me and not happy that way, i guess since i've known him, havent actually been seeing anyway.. and when he heard about this guy (cos he rung and i didnt answer cos He was there) he was like if you're not interested in him, dont reply or answer calls.. hmmm...

Thanks dudes and dudettes!

LegacyUser

I think it may have something more to do with a friendship changing rather than anger or jealousy.

Intimacy changes between friends when one friend starts seeing another.

An ex of mine who I have remained friends with was a bit upset when she found out that I was seeing someone new. It was more just the initial sinking in and the fact that myself and herself would never be the same again was what upset her.

We're back on track as friends but things aren't quite the same as they were. That's life.

I am a friend

Maybe he sensed you were attached to him and is giving you space to progress this relationship.

A0

Aahhh... Close friendship between single men and single women are always... full of surprises :rolleyes:

LegacyUser

I am a friend wrote: »

Maybe he sensed you were attached to him and is giving you space to progress this relationship.

you could be right there actually. seeing him later/ tomorrow now (random last min trip to big smoke) so should be sorted then