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  • 28-11-2011 11:10pm
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    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    In February this year my boyfriend's father developed a rare syndrome which within 24hrs left him paralysed and on a ventilator. We watched him loose the ability to move, speak and swallow over 8hrs. It's one of the hardest days of my life. In June his father decided, via the aid of an alphabet board, to stop treatment. His ventilator was switched off the next day.

    In September this year my boyfriend decided to break up with me. 10 weeks ago. We were together 4yrs, living together and had all these future plans together.

    The last year has been a fog, one we both got lost in.

    I'm so sad. I'm doing everything you're supposed to do. I've made new friends, going out all the time and am seeing a counsellor, I've managed to keep my job and keep my head above water.

    I will see him this weekend for the first time since he moved out 8 weeks ago. We have to close our joint account.

    When does it get easier? When will it stop hurting so much?


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭I am a friend


    OP I am sorry to hear that. I dont see why you need to meet him to close a bank account. You can go separately ?!?!?

    I think you need to avoid meeting him and also you just need to keep doing what you are doing.

    I suffered a very close and very tragic bereavement this year and would never use thsi as an excuse (if he has) to finish my relationship so please dont blame it on his Dad dying... Just accept that he wanted to finish the relationship full stop. I know its easier to look for reasons but there is no good reason to break up with someone if you truly love them.

    You are doing great so keep your chin up, keep busy and treat yourself. It will pass but could be a number of months yet.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6 Sliuniav4ik


    Brokenx2 wrote: »
    When does it get easier? When will it stop hurting so much?


    As soon as you really realize that it's over. Not just "Yeah, I know it's over". You need to let it go completely. You need to let the stress/anger out. Maybe a good cry out on your friends shoulder or something similar to that.


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