Girlfriend has changed, not sure about relationship anymore

LegacyUser

I've been with my girlfriend for 5 years and it's usually great but in the last few months she's really been changing and getting really broody. It's freaking me out and we don't seem to just have fun anymore. We're both 27 but doing postgrads in college so it's not an option yet but it's all she talks about, I'm getting bored with the relationship now. I miss my girlfriend and the fun we used to have.

I've tried talking to her about it but she doesn't see it as an issue, thinking about leaving her.

barleybooley

I'm sure she isn't the only one to blame if the relationship isn't fun anymore, OP. A relationship takes two people to work and you're one of them!

What do you mean by changing? Apart from getting broody, I mean? And if you're both 27 and been together 5 years, she's not that strange for getting like this. If it's a case that you 1) are bored with the relationship and 2) have no intention of settling down with her then maybe you should leave her so she can live the life she wants with someone else.

rediguana25

You're freaking out because you're not ready for the settling and having a baby yet. That's natural. But you need to tell her that it's unnerving you and that it IS an issue. You didn't get through to her before but try again. Don't just let this fester - you say you miss your gf well she is still there you just have to clear the air tell her how you feel and if she loves you she'll understand. It probably won't make her less broody but at least she'll know how you feel and can make her own mind up then if she want's to stay or if she wants to meet someone else who she can love and who is ready to settle down.

I am a friend

It baffles me how people can go out with someone for years and not think about or talk about the future

Chances are you are dodging the subject rather than sitting down and having an adult chat with her. If she is on edge about it then its because she is nervous and probably cos she doesnt know whats coming. I suspect that once a decision is made and agreed upon, the fun will come back into the relationship....

curlzy

Hey OP,

I'm 29 and tbh while I want children "some day", I'd be happy waiting until I'm 50 or 60:D My bf wants kids, but I was very very clear I don't want any until I'm at least 33. He respects that and is happy to wait until then. You really need to spell it out, that you are NOT ready and won't be any time soon. Maybe have a think about when you think you will be ready and tell her that. Maybe if she knows the timescale she'll be able to get a handle on broodiness and go back to having fun for now?

Best of luck.