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killer kilbane

Basically have been texting and chatting to this Polish girl for a number of weeks now. We seem to get on well and make each other laugh. Obviously I really like her. A month ago She had told me that she wasn't looking for a boyfriend and so on. Last weekend we met in a club and we were talking and dancing. When we talking she was on about her ex boyfriends and Irish men, on how they never want anything else only sex off her. We left the club, and I walked her back to her place. when we got there we had a drink or 2 and chatted more to me about her ex's and how bad they were and then she showed me old pictures of her holidays and her town back home etc. Everything inside me was telling me to make a move as she has brought me back to her place, but I thought if I did would she think I was just after her for sex like the other.

I felt at the time that to be with her, if i showed her some respect it could pay off. I dont want her to be just to be a one night stand, as I got to know her through the night i was liking her a lot. I wanted to show she could trust me to be different to the rest!

Did i make an error in not making a move or does she just see me as a good friend or should i tell her how i feel?

Bodhidharma

killer kilbane wrote: »

Did i make an error in not making a move or does she just see me as a good friend or should i tell her how i feel?

Tell her what you're thinking.

holyhead

Keep getting to know her better. Women are fairly smart she'll twig from body language I imagine that you like her. She is bound to respect you for not making a move at the first opportunity.

gmac102

am i the only one who thinks talking about her ex's constantly is a VERY bad sign?

id believe her if she tells you she doesnt want a bf, i cant imagine any girl saying all that stuff about ex's and men just wanting sex to get a guy interested.

I am a friend

killer kilbane wrote: »

She had told me that she wasn't looking for a boyfriend and so on.

What part of this do you not understand?

killer kilbane

When she was on bout the ex's she was on about everything they did wrong and what they said about her after they split. I thought it was great she was opening up a bit as she kept those things to herself all along which I thought was good. Kinda showed she trusted me a bit. Maybe Im wrong and looking for the positives just because I really like her.

Might be all wrong, thinking of telling her what I feel and she what she says, but I dont know what way to put it or what way it will go.

killer kilbane

Got an I dont know which is my answer I think

nowyouresix

she has you sucked in.... I think she's playing a game.

A0

killer kilbane wrote: »

Got an I dont know which is my answer I think

Move on, quick! No friendship with a woman you have feelings for, it doesn't work.

killer kilbane

In what way nowyouresix

nowyouresix

killer kilbane : I'm a bit of a cynic... It's like she's using her past relationships as this massive tool (no pun intended incidentally)... She's saying-look I was treated like this/that...and as a guy who really likes her (and damn sure she knows it) it's going to make you feel like YOU have to protect her...almost making you feel guilty for the way she was treated in the past so that you will treat her like a princess. Fair enough, she probably deserves to be treated like a princess anyway, but I just think that it's a manipulative move by her. Anyway like I said I'm a cynic... so I'd be wary !!

killer kilbane

from what she said though they treated her like sh*t. Spread rumours after breaking up and stuff. Ive made my move wasn't told either so its up to her. Im taking it as a no so move on. I will have no hard feelings towards her. Not her fault she doesn't feel th same

nowyouresix

Well, in any case you probably reinstilled her faith in men, as you were kind to her ! Pity she didn't feel the same...
Best of luck !