Say cheese....oh wait its broke

boxoff

Hey guys,
am on a real downer tonight, feel absolutely rubbish. Me boyfriend gave me a loan of a (cheapish) digital camera ages ago. The screen cracked, I never told him. Now hes asking for it back. I looked into getting ti repaired but they cant repair it because its such an old model. Its been discontinued aswell so I cant replace it. I priced the newer model and it is 100e which I could make myself afford to replace the camera.
He has a thing about not telling the truth and has made a massive ordeal when I told him a white lie before. I just am so down thinking there is going to be a massive explosion of a row. we are going away the wekend that is why he wants the camera.

I am replacing it, would u be very mad if your other half did break it but replace it?

Sundy

Just tell him the truth. If he goes mad and causes an 'explosion of a row' I would be a bit concerned to be honest.

The Lovely Muffin

Personally, I wouldn't be too bothered my boyfriend broke my camera and replaced it.

I would prefer it if he told me though, like your boyfriend, I don't like lies, big or small, but I wouldn't cause a row or trouble over it.

If you are replacing it there hopefully won't be any problem. But in future try not to lie/keep things from your boyfriend, no matter how small the lie may be, if he doesn't like lying, don't lie to him.

Firetrap

Come clean and tell him. If it smooths things over, you can tell him you took it out of the bag to make sure you'd taken the photos off it and discovered to your horror that the screen had cracked. That you don't know when it happend. It's probably not a good idea to let him know you've known it for a while. Apologise and offer to replace it. The way digital cameras are going nowadays anyway, you'd get something reasonably decent for €100. And yeah, there is an irony in my telling you to tell a white lie here. Just don't do it in future - it is almost always better to be up front and straight with people

LegacyUser

You answered your own question, I don't know why you've lied up til this point? Does he treat you so badly that you're afraid to admit to cracking something accidentally? I mean, you're going to replace it, so I don't get the issue. Just tell him and don't beat yourself up. I break expensive gadgets all the time, I'm clumsy! heh :P

OkayWhatever

My boyfriend loves his laptop. like adores it, it's like his little baby.

So as you can imagine, when I spilt beer all over it by accident a while back, I freaked out. Completely. Thought I was going to die with the fear of what he was going to say.!!

I tried to hide it and whatever, but he found out, obviously!! I just explained that it was an accident and he understood completely. He didn't freak out or give out, he just said it was okay and he was gonna try and fix it.

He tried and had no luck so I bought him a new one.

Me buying him a new one was the right thing to do, I never would have let him buy himself a new one after me breaking it. Accident or not.
I'm sure if you just explained it, it will be fine. Don't try hide it though, might make him more mad when he does find out.

Offer to buy him a new one too, he's not going to be giving out much if he has a nice new little camera in his pocket!

echosound

Just tell him the truth - you discovered the screen had broken, you were making enquiries to see if you could get it replaced but had no luck, and you plan to get him a replacement (perhaps of his choice, so long as it's still within your budget). If he goes mad over that, well I don't know

I certainly wouldn't be mad if my other half broke something but was going to replace it for me (well, I might be a teeny bit upset if there were loads of sentimental photos I couldn't get at if the entire camera was smashed to bits, but if it's only the screen that's cracked, if there does happen to be any important photos on it, they can be gotten off the camera if you hook it up to a laptop anyway).

Jerri Jordan

just tell him - if he is a normal person he will be fine. these things happen. if he blows up then i would seriously rethink your relationship and leg it.

curlzy

Jerri Jordan wrote: »

just tell him - if he is a normal person he will be fine. these things happen. if he blows up then i would seriously rethink your relationship and leg it.

Couldn't agree with this more. "Exploding" with anger over a white lie isn't acceptable or normal.

I am a friend

boxoff wrote: »

feel absolutely rubbish.

Why do you feel rubbish over a camera? Do you have a lot of self esteem issues?

Sounds like your OH is quite controlling or else you are overly submissive in relationships. Yoe had an accident and if the relationship was healthy, you should not be feeling so scared of telling him.

Payton

It's a camera, its not as if you destroyed the memory card. It can and is being replaced, maybe write a little funny card and wrap up the new camera and surprise him, make it light hearted. Then own up to it, if he confronts you about it well then the problem is him not you.
Things get broken all the time and life still goes on.

ElleEm

curlzy wrote: »

Couldn't agree with this more. "Exploding" with anger over a white lie isn't acceptable or normal.

I disagree with this.
Lying is lying, end of. Whether he "explodes" with anger or what constitutes a "white lie" is subjective.

OP, apologise and replace the camera.

baldshin

Just tell him when you were pulling it out of your bag or somewhere to get it to give it back that it fell and cracked! Offer a replacement, easy!