which girl should i choose?

LegacyUser

a few months ago after a long and serious relationship breakup i never thought i would be in the position im currently in.

i joined a club to make new friends and i met these two girls one night who are best friends and i got on with them very well. the following weekend at a fancy dress i ended up with one of them, nothing serious, the other girl was away that weekend. the following day the girl that wasnt there started chatting to me on facebook after pictures were posted of me and the other girl together with a group. she has been chatting to me every day since. we seem to have alot in common regarding music, places of interest and activities. we arranged to met up at a concert both of us were attending but didnt really chat much and stayed with our own friends, she seems abit shy and i find it hard to read her intensions, so far i see her as just a friend and nothing more but im getting mixed ideas with the intense messages i get from her.

So even though more is happening with the other girl i seem to be a bit confused. as they are best friends i would have thought they would be talking to each other with whats going on, as i have metup with both of them, one as just friends, the other more intimate encounter.

As i have came out of a long relationship im still unsure what i want, ie. a bit of fun, or something more serious. the girl im friendly with is more of the longterm type, where im unsure with the other girl who seems to be good fun but im unsure of her intentions relationship wise.

fungun

what 'intense messages'?

Aside from that comment which I dont understand what you mean, I see nothing in your post to suggest any more than the first girl likes you, spoke to her best friend about liking you and her friend is doing some 'background checks'

mathproblem

don't choose either of them,just keep hanging around in the club/group, have a laugh and see what happens

btw.. you said one of the girls was different in person than online.. i'd put alot more stock in how you get on face to face if i was you

LegacyUser

thanks fungun,

sorry i mean intense messaging, its all day every day.

i think what had happened in my last relationship is possibly why i think the 2nd girls intensions are different. my ex got friendly with a guy and they were messaging each other all the time, i was uncomfortable with it and even though she reassured me nothing was going on i later found out there was.

my intensions was to build up a friend pool and gain trust in confidence with girls again. i wasnt really looking for a relationship, i had inteneded on doing what your saying mathproblem

i have gotten over my ex for sure, theres no doubt on that but maybe its the fear i have of going into a relationship again rather an taking more time out for myself. yet at the same time loosing out on something good.

Emme

mathproblem wrote: »

don't choose either of them,just keep hanging around in the club/group, have a laugh and see what happens

btw.. you said one of the girls was different in person than online.. i'd put alot more stock in how you get on face to face if i was you

Keep them both as friends, don't get involved with either. If you do you risk messing up their friendship and getting the name of a scumbag in the club and other affiliated clubs (if I'm thinking of Meetup). If you don't mess up their friendship you'll get the name of a scumbag anyway for stringing the two of them along.

Keep them as friends and don't use the club as a harem, if you do you will get a seriously bad rep.