should i come clean?

LegacyUser

one of my best friends is always in a relationship but the way she treats men is horrible.always leading them on whilst with someone else just to have somewhere in stand-by,not that they realise this!
we fell out over the way she treats guys and now have made up so its all ok.
the problem i have now is,one of her exs,we are kinda friends,had been messaging me for months wanting to meet up at first,cuz i was left heartbroken by someone, i didnt mind the texting etc but when it came down to things, i couldnt do it.mostly because we had just made up and she left the country and was returning soon enough and partly because of guilt i guess.
the thing now is she has left the country again and last night me and him ended up sleeping together.Im not gonna lie, it was good but i did feel a little bad botu what happened.i know she will never find out from him but when i see her next, i know i will be riddled with guilt. should i tell her?? its been years since they have been together and they werent going out that long. i know thats no excuse but.........
i know il get some barrade of abuse but lets hear it people!!

nowyouresix

Why do you feel bad about it?
It was years since they were together, as you say, and even at that they weren't going out for long. Fair game is what I say. You don't need to get your friend's ok on this. Life goes on.

Katgurl

I can't see what you've done wrong here really.

Tell her if you want, be nice about it and acknowledge that it might feel weird for her but don't do some big confession as if you have wronged her because you haven't.

hairyprincess

You have done nothing wrong! Grab any chance of happiness you can get

Big Bag of Chips

If you act guilty it will make her treat you like you're guilty.

Tell her or not, but don't make an apology for it. Tell her in a "guess who I've started seeing...." way. My guess is she won't be all that bothered, unless he treated her badly and left her heartbroken..

LegacyUser

WOW!!!thanks guys.feeling a lot better about the whole thing now.i was expecting a lot of criticism.
I know its been a long time since they were together but i guess i feel like i shouldnt treat a friend like that.im too sensitive i think. :P
THANKS again guys