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Using alcohol as a crutch

  • 19-11-2011 11:08pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I am a single guy in my mid-thirties. I am trying to get into a relationship, well not strictly speaking as they say it won't happen if you try too hard but I am trying to enjoy the company of females and hang out with them more.
    My problem is that I am a a quiet, reserved person (not boring; I have interests;sport, music, entertainment, film etc.)
    I usually open up more to people (women in particular) when I have had a few beers. Not completley hammered mind, just drunk. I feel more confident around women when I have had a few drinks, it makes it easier for me to think of things to say. I don't talk utter s***e either, I can actually talk about politics, current affairs etc while I am drunk.
    Just last night I was with a few friends and there was an attractive late-thirties, early-forties female there. She was quite sophisticated, well-educated, in a high-powered job. I got chatting to her, I was OK I thought. I was "having the craic" with her, not trying too hard to be the funny man but she seemed to be reasonably entertained by me and I enjoyed the conversation (I would like to get her thoughts on it at a later time).
    I always feel a little uncomfortable getting inebriated to reach the level where I can talk to a woman so I am just posting to get people's opinions and advice I suppose about this.
    I didn't say anything offensive to the woman as I know when a drunk guy comes up talking to a girl in a boorish, ignorant manner it is very off-putting.
    I actually only talked to her in particular as I find it easier to talk to well-read, intelligent types (sorry; that is snobbish I know)
    I don't know if I should be doing it though; I know lots of guys do the same (get tanked-up so they can work up the courage to talk to a girl) but I do feel a little guilty or silly about it. I wish I could talk to a girl without (as the title says) using alcohol as a crutch but then sometimes I think "what the hell" as long as it works for me (I am better craic when I am a bit tipsy anyway)


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
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    sunflower27 wrote: »
    Maybe just stick to two beers to take the edge off.

    That's easier said than done though; it's an easy trap to fall into to keep going to the bar when you are in a pub/nightclub with your friends, in a good mood and music blaring.
    A lot of the time it's out of boredom as I don't dance and there is nothing else to pass the time while you are talking but drink.


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