Christmas on my own in oz

madmac187

Hi all I live in cairns in Australia, moved over 5 months ago. I don't know anyone, and I don't want to go home for it. I have a girlfriend over here a native and met her family a fair bit now and they know me. I was wondering what do I do about Christmas? I know no one here and kinda don't want to spend my first day one away from home on my own. Does anyone have any suggestions?

My girlfriend and I are together about 4 months now and heading to Sydney in 2 weeks to say hey to her family and something else. What are your recommendations anyone? I'm not inviting myself to hers, if she asks me I will that's about the size of it. Do i wait till a few weeks beforehand but by then if she doesn't I wont have anywhere to go? I moved here on my own on a long term visa by the way for work.

madmac187

madmac187 wrote: »

Hi all I live in cairns in Australia, moved over 5 months ago. I don't know anyone, and I don't want to go home for it. I have a girlfriend over here a native and met her family a fair bit now and they know me. I was wondering what do I do about Christmas? I know no one here and kinda don't want to spend my first day one away from home on my own. Does anyone have any suggestions?

My girlfriend and I are together about 4 months now and heading to Sydney in 2 weeks to say hey to her family and something else. What are your recommendations anyone? I'm not inviting myself to hers, if she asks me I will that's about the size of it. Do i wait till a few weeks beforehand but by then if she doesn't I wont have anywhere to go? I moved here on my own on a long term visa by the way for work.

One thing I wondered actually, if she doesn't ask me knowing I know no one and will be on my own, is that bad form? We are both mid to late 20s too in case anyone wonders and will be together nearly 6 months by then.

LegacyUser

She'll definitely ask you. Knowing that your on your own it would be weird not to, especially after 4 months.

silly

sdfds wrote: »

She'll definitely ask you. Knowing that your on your own it would be weird not to, especially after 4 months.

I agree. She'd want to be very cold hearted to not ask you. But in saying that, you don't know what her family are like, who knows! They might not want her inviting someone they hardly know. But to be honest, I doubt that happen.

madmac187

sdfds wrote: »

She'll definitely ask you. Knowing that your on your own it would be weird not to, especially after 4 months.

I know the family pretty well by now like so doubt that part will be an issue. Does she have to ask me though, after all it's only been 4 months do far?

qwertytlk

Tbh id be shocked if she didnt ask you! Does she know you wont be going home for xmas yet? Without actually dropping hints or asking her out straight you could always sieze some opportunity to bring up something about xmas and just see what she says. Or ask if she has anything she would like for a gift-perfect opportunity! It being so close to xmas now, its likely that it will come up in conversation while you at her parents this weekend anyway. You never know, they could be planning to ask you when your down with them. Or she may be already planning to ask you but she is just waiting to check its ok with her parents!

madmac187

Thanks everyone Im not sure to be honest, I have been a little depressed over it because Im going to miss home. I have since said it her that it has only hit me about Xmas and being away from home.

I will not ask her about it. I would feel weird if I did, to me it would seem clingy and she doesn't know what she is doing with her daughter, whether grand mothers or her parents. And then she doesn't know if it's her place or restaurant and that craic so She doesn't know. If all else fails spend it inside a bottle and make it pass that way.

If I'm on my own, I don't know any other way to make it quickly pass. I think Il just take it that I'm on my own and hope for the best but prepare for the worst..

LegacyUser

I get the feeling that the only reason that she hasnt specifically said it you yet is because its a given and she assumes that you know your going to be with her for christmas. Also its only November!

I am a friend

I don't agree with everyone else, especially if she has a daughter. Have you made other friends since moving over? Am sure there are a lot of people in the same boat.

cafecolour

Yeah, I don't know that she'll invite you for Christmas. 4 months isn't that long.

There should be packs of expats (many of them even Irish) in aus, see if you can connect with them for something.

Option 2 - plan on traveling somewhere, preferably not Christian (Bali? Malaysia?). Mention it to the GF first, ask her if she wants to join you.