Token Engagement Ring

SL_11

Hi all, 

I have just started to investigate the use of Token Engagement Rings as I only recently heard about these as a means to propose! Generally I like to come fully armed but when it comes to this type of stuff I just don't feel fully comfortable - there is so much to consider! Plus, my girlfriend has to wear, love and show-off the ring so I want to make sure she likes it. So I have decided to go down the Token Engagement Ring route if possible. We can then go shopping for the day (if she accepts!) and add another fun element to the engagement process. 

So, I would just like to confirm and enhance my understanding of what a Token ER should be and have decided to look to the knowledgeable members of boards.ie! If anyone could help I owe them in a big way! 

What type of ring should it be? Of course it should have a personal significance to us, which I will look after obviously, but does it need to be a particular setting, weight, size etc etc? Or, as I presume, it can be any type and all that follows on the day I buy the actual Engagement Ring? 

Is price an issue? Again I presume not for the reasons mentioned above but I am totally open to correction! 

Do you have any more advice for a guy who is obviously desperately trying to get up to speed in this area?! 

Apologies for the lack of homework but I have a date I would like to propose and it isn't too far away. So I am trying to get as much advice as possible before I proceed. I will continue to research myself but in the meantime any and all advice would be hugely appreciated. 

Thanks all, 
SL_11. 

Moonbeam

Aww:)

You could buy a bracelet or necklace or earrings or any present that she would love.
Does she comment on nice jewelery when you pass shops?
I would take it all on board!!
I would say 100 euro is plenty to spend on it but I am more easy going then most.

deskgirl

My fiance proposed with a token ring and I think it is the best way to do it. We then went and picked the ring together and it was such a lovely day. I my opinion it can be any kind of ring as it is just a symbol until you get the real thing. I do not think there is any need to go spending much on it - save the extra money for the real thing!

SuiteCheex

Firstly, you've made the right decision. Let her choose THE ring.

Secondly, here's my 2 cents....If you buy her a token ring, when you get the real deal it will become obsolete.

I invested in a Links charm bracelet early on in our relationship. It's a great present as you can buy her charms which signify different events and after a while the bracelet tells the story of your relationship.

When I proposed I presented her with this charm, which we then got engraved with the proposal date.



Then we went shopping together to get the proper ring which, as you said, adds another experience to the whole event. It's great as it means she can wear both the token gift and the real deal at the same time.

Hope this helps and best of luck with the proposal!

Acoshla

SuiteCheex that is the best token gift I have ever seen for a proposal!

westies4ever

SuiteCheex wrote: »

Firstly, you've made the right decision. Let her choose THE ring.

Secondly, here's my 2 cents....If you buy her a token ring, when you get the real deal it will become obsolete.

I invested in a Links charm bracelet early on in our relationship. It's a great present as you can buy her charms which signify different events and after a while the bracelet tells the story of your relationship.

When I proposed I presented her with this charm, which we then got engraved with the proposal date.



Then we went shopping together to get the proper ring which, as you said, adds another experience to the whole event. It's great as it means she can wear both the token gift and the real deal at the same time.

Hope this helps and best of luck with the proposal!

you sound lovely - shame you're taken!!!!!:)

Bride2012

Congratulations!

My fiancé bought me a cubic zirconia solitaire ring for about €30 to propose with and that weekend we went ring shopping. Definately let her pick! I still wear my token ring on my right hand sometimes so I have the memory, best of both world's really. I would save the budget for the main ring, don't go overload. Good luck!

watna

My fiance proposed with a plain, white gold band. It was the only ring he could find that would fit my fingers without being re-sized. I have abnormally skinny fingers

I'm going to use it now as my wedding ring, even though it was very inexpensive. I wanted to wear it because it has a lot of meaning.

He didn't spend very much on it - I think it was about the 50EUR mark.

SL_11

watna wrote: »

My fiance proposed with a plain, white gold band. It was the only ring he could find that would fit my fingers without being re-sized. I have abnormally skinny fingers

I'm going to use it now as my wedding ring, even though it was very inexpensive. I wanted to wear it because it has a lot of meaning.

He didn't spend very much on it - I think it was about the 50EUR mark.

Thanks all, this has been really helpful. Everything is starting to become clearer now! Much appreciated. I may have to use your knowledge more often!!

toadfly

My boyfriend proposed with a token ring, it cost him €40. Its silver with a "diamond" on it. I love it and will get it resized to wear on nights out etc so I dont risk losing my real ring! I love the charm idea.

carolinespring

Thomas Sabo do beautiful charm bracelets and you can get a engagement ring charm. Really pretty and something that you could add to over the years.

amdublin

The token ring should cost minimal money.

It just needs to have the look of a proper engagement ring!

Oasis or marks & spencers do them for about a tenner.
Or argos??

ElectraX

My boyfriend proposed with a Swarovski ring. They are not hugely expensive-in around the €100 but he knows I really like their jewellery so it was a lovely gesture.Really didn't expect him to spend that much, would have been happy with a joke ring, but it's something I will always have now as a momento of the occasion.:)
Go with your instincts and you won't go wrong! Good luck:)

Rew

I went down the token ring route as well. Good thing I did as she went for something completely different to what she hinted at! I borrowed a ring and a box from a jeweler who was very accommodating with no obligation to buy though we got the final ring there.