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LegacyUser

currently seeing a married woman dont think she will ever leave her husband any advice

Silverfish

Okay folks I know this is an emotive topic, so as a pre-emptive warning, please keep replies civil and on-topic, and constructive to the OP.


Thank you.

fungun

Well unless you are just in it for the sex, then an ultimatum of sorts would be appropriate.

Kiera

Why would you stick around if she's never going to leave her husband and you know it? My advice would be to cut your losses and move on to someone who can give 100% to you.

Firetrap

If you asked a question there, you've just got your answer. She's not going to leave her husband. So either you waste away who knows how many years of your life being her bit on the side or you cut your losses and finish things. Affairs like these do eventually end you know, and the outcome is unlikely to be a happy one from your point of view. So really, the only advice you should take is the one that you'll see time and time again on this thread. Finish up with her and put your energies into meeting someone who's single.

I am a friend

underorders11 wrote: »

currently seeing a married woman dont think she will ever leave her husband any advice

Yeah she might cos she is obviously already unhappy in the relationship if she is sleeping around. The bigger question is - would you wSnt to be with someone who was cheating to be with you? You are her bit on the side, if she leaves to be with you then that vacancy becomes open again.

holyhead

I don't think its ever right to see a married woman. Consider how you'd feel if you were the husband. She of course is miles off to be seeing you as someone's wife. I'd try and find someone else to capture your heart. Its hard to see this situation having a happy outcome.

johnr1

Right.

Firstly, OP, there is a reason marriage exists - it has meanings. One of these is that you don't fcuk other people. Also, that other people of any decency don't attempt to fcuk you when you're married.

Here are two ideas on what to do.

1. Keep seeing her and eventually her husband will find out, kick her out, throw a slap or two at you, and you'll win the treasure that this woman undoubtedly is.
What follows is anyone's guess, but you just might end up here again in a couple of years wondering why your sweet loving girlfriend cheated on you after you had taken her away from that awful cold controlling unloving husband of hers to a better life.

2. You could grow a pair of balls like most of us have and find one of the thousands of unattached women out there. I'm sure they don't exactly measure up to this amazing, different, specimen of womanhood you currently don't have, but it's worth a try don't you think?

I'd be banned if I wrote the other suggestion that comes to mind.

gmac102

in the long term my guess is yes because if shes cheating, she aint happy.....but u should ask urself if she left him would you trust her?

good luck

IrishEyes19

underorders11 wrote: »

currently seeing a married woman dont think she will ever leave her husband any advice

It must be very hard to love someone when you dont know how they feel or act. But its also wise to think of the family she could be hurting also, and the fact that if you have the belief she wont leave, its most likely she never will.