unreasonable?

LegacyUser

started going out with a girl who is, frankly, spectacular looking, used to model etc, she went for a night out to another town recently for a girls night out, and rang me drunk at three in the morning to tell me she had gotten nineteen phone numbers off guys, the next day she said it was only nine actually. I said it was a bit bull****ty to be coming home with any numbers and she had a good huff about it, am I being unreasonable??

Miss Fluff

So she phoned you to tell you that she'd gotten the phone number of nine different blokes on a night out. For what? To talk about the weather?

I don't care if she looks like the Queen of Sheeba sweetheart, she sounds like an out and out spanner.

Slattsy

Dump her !!

Slattsy

Sorry I don't know how that came up so many times. I wasn't trying to emphasis it that much I swear

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ManOfMystery

She sounds like a total attention seeker. To get 19 numbers in a single night, she'd have to be. And then to ring you to gloat over it? More attention.

It's such a ridiculous amount of numbers that you'd question if she's making it up. And if she is ............... again, it comes back to attention seeking.

Do yourself a favour, get rid of her and move on to a girl with a bit more respect for you.

Pebbles68

Have you asked her the reason for collecting phone numbers and ringing to tell you? Sounds very needy and like very hard work tbh, and not showing much respect to you. Are you sure that's the kind of relationship you want to be in?

dellas1979

Are ye living in Ireland?

Am sorry, but there is no way in hell she got 9 guys' numbers, let alone 19 - doesnt matter what she looks like. 1 or 2 in a nite out fair enough, but 9 (changed from 19?) is making her look stooopid. Where is she storing these "numbers"? Sounds like when she sobered up in the morning, even she knew 19 sounds OTT. (9 sounds like 19, Ill go with 9. Doesnt sound as made up).

Good looking people are also, like every other human on the planet, insecure about their looks, but more dangerously seek attention to verify this. So, be careful with figuring out as to why she rang you to tell you this, said 19, and then changed it to 9.

I've a good feeling alot of this is embellishment. Females do this all the time to make you think "oh lots of guys want her so she must be worth holding on to". In fact it does the opposite to the partner.

bigbaz

well it was nine numbers,after i probed further,otherwise shes a great person to be around,and generally a great person i think,another question i have is this;

she still makes contact with a couple of exes from years past,now i have one ex girlfriend who recently got hit in a nightclub by a guy and had to have minor surgery,so i have been sending an odd text to see how she is etc,we didnt break up on bad terms or anything,i havent said anything about her still texting these dudes,but she is giving me the third degree about the texts i sent to my ex,and im completely open about it to her,she can view them anytime,should either of us be texting?

floorpie

Sounds like she's insecure about you texting your ex so is making up the thing about getting 9-19 numbers. Suppose ye better reassure her. You're entitled to text your ex, if it's agreed upon within your new relationship.

dellas1979

What do you mean by you "probed around"?

You asked and she told you? Shur what else is she going to say? "I made it all up"?

Im sticking with my first theory. Sounds like tit for tat. She doesnt want you in contact with your ex, and so wants you to know how good you have it and what you could loose to the other 19(!) fellas.