What is wrong whit me ?

LegacyUser

Going unreg for this one .

Will try ans keep this as short as possible , so not to bore you guys to death .

Lately I am struggling a bit , ok a lot with my relationship with my family , or the luck their of .

Strangely it come more to a head by a very recent bereavement which unexpectedly seem to affect me a lot more than I would have ever imagined as we were never close and if anything had nothing in common , and usually stayed well out of each others way .
After learning about the passing of one of my siblings OH , a couple of days after the event , immediately expressed my condolences . It has to be mentioned that I have 3 siblings and am not close to 2 of them , to the extend that I have not spoken to them in years . It is not that I don't want to but we simply got nothing to say to each other , there is just deafening silence if we try and strike up a conversation . As we ( myself and OH ) have emigrated years ago , and therefore are not in close vicinity it makes it easier to ignored and forget ( at least try to ) the situation .
Back to the point the funeral has taken place without anyone informing us when and where , so had no choice in the matter but not to attend . Would have hoped that at least my parents would inform me and give us a choice to attend .
This is a very common thing in my family , I hardly ever know of anything happening like my grandfathers passing ( which was my only surviving grandparent ) or happy occasions like the birth of my nice , it was several month after her birth that my mother accidentally in a phone conversation mentioned it .

I guess the physical distance does not help and the luck of contact . Tried to improve this by buying my parents a state of the art pc and hook it up to skype so we can talk and email at our hearth leisure but one of my siblings nicked the pc only a couple of weeks later .Of course it was to "repair" it , although they never got round to install it for my parents as promised in the first place .

Sorry this turned out longer than I wanted it to .

So I guess what I am wondering is , what is wrong with me . Why am I the odd one out ?
Or should I just try and shut the door on them and keep my distance , but how do I manage to deafen the worries and thought going round and round in my head ?

Thank you for your patience and hope you guys have some words of wisdom for me .

muppetkiller

Sorry but did you not check the Death Notices ? That normally has all the details of the funeral.

LegacyUser

different country ,different customs


in this case ,it is entirely up to the bereaved family if , what , when and where any death notice is taken out
they chose not to publicize any notice until after the fact , to keep gawpers away

also their is no announcement on the local radio ever