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analvirgin

hi all i am a young virgin(23)anal i am straight am just interested in trying anal sex im hearing from other sites to try the boilerhouse its an easy lay but is it safe and would i be seen entering or leaving the place any advice would be great and just want to experience it really

baby and crumble

Well as I'm not a guy I can't really say in specific to the Boilerhouse, trying that for the first time with a total stranger in an atmosphere like the that might not be the best idea, at least in my opinion. (I'm not saying anything against the Boilerhouse, I'm just saying that it's... well to put it delicately it's not the kind of thing you want to have rushed on your first time.)

Anyway, there have been plenty of threads on the Boilerhouse, if you search here there are loads, but here's a good one which links to others:

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=69927850

TylerIE

Possibly safer than meeting someone in a park or field in terms of your indoors and less likely to be physically attacked but in terms of STI transmission etc Id read those other threads that b&c linked to...

If your at all confused over your sexuality it may be better to just explore how you feel first or why you want to try anal, rather than diving head first into being the receptive partner with some randomer who doesnt care about you - or how you enjoy it. Theres also ways to bring such activities into hetrosexual relationships, and many people do.

Killer Pigeon

analvirgin wrote: »

hi all i am a young virgin(23)anal i am straight am just interested in trying anal sex im hearing from other sites to try the boilerhouse its an easy lay but is it safe and would i be seen entering or leaving the place any advice would be great and just want to experience it really

I know it's debatable, but I'd call places like the Boilerhouse breeding grounds from HIV and other STDs. I know they might help fulfill some insatiable fantasy but at the end of the day it's sleazy sex with sleazy people (no offense) and you don't know where they've been.

No, it's better, I think, if you try to meet someone over the internet, or bar, etc.. It'd say if you still regard yourself as "straight", then you'd probably use the internet and be discrete.

If you're meeting up with someone from the internet, don't meet up with them until you've chatted with them for at least 2 weeks. Then meet up in a public place, café, etc.. Better safe than sorry.

I'd say it's better to get to know and trust the person first before they thrust themselves inside you, especially if it's your first time. You don't have to develop any sort of "relationship", though I think it's just good to meet like minded people.

analvirgin

its being on my mind for a few years and as i said im straight and want it to be discreet i looked at the other posts great help but they seem to be mostly bad comments would the daytime be advisable i am very keen on trying anal its just building up the courage really

baby and crumble

OP, I would say if you're straight, there are LOTS of women out there who get a kick from anal sex, and I don't mean by being the receiver. Check out this google search and see what you think. You might then have luck on a website such of adultfriendfinder or some such.

All we're saying is that you need to be very careful having sex with randomers.

And maybe the fact that it's mostly negative comments in all the other threads means it might not be the best idea?

Killer Pigeon

analvirgin wrote: »

its being on my mind for a few years and as i said im straight and want it to be discreet i looked at the other posts great help but they seem to be mostly bad comments would the daytime be advisable i am very keen on trying anal its just building up the courage really

If you want to be discreet and if you're just building up the courage to do it, I would steer clear of the Boilerhouse. You're better off sticking with like minded people and with people you trust. Not some random guy you met 5 minutes ago in a bathhouse.

Also, just as a matter of interest, how "straight" is a guy who's been dreaming about "doing it" with a guy for a "few years"? Be true to yourself man. Just to further what Baby and Crumble is getting at, are you more interested in getting anal via a man or a woman (stap-on, dildos, what not), or is it just the general idea of receiving?

cgcsb

you're a straight man that wants to have sex with another man? that does not make sense

Killer Pigeon

cgcsb wrote: »

you're a straight man that wants to have sex with another man? that does not make sense

Let's not making any assumption here. Let the OP make his case a little clearer.

OP, does the general idea of anal sex (regardless if it's a man or a woman) excite you or is it specifically with men. Remember we're not here to judge you and it would be unfair to do so but never lie to yourself.

analvirgin

Killer Pigeon wrote: »

Let's not making any assumption here. Let the OP make his case a little clearer.

OP, does the general idea of anal sex (regardless if it's a man or a woman) excite you or is it specifically with men. Remember we're not here to judge you and it would be unfair to do so but never lie to yourself.

i being honest i dont find men attractive its the anal with a man real cock that excites me preferable shemale but thats nearly impossible for a straight person thanks for advice so far really helpful

apache

it may be a lucrative market if a lesbian came up with a boilerhouse equivalent? i have often wondered :P

not for me - i'm a good girl. but i am sure there would be a market out there!

Meesared

analvirgin wrote: »

i being honest i dont find men attractive its the anal with a man real cock that excites me preferable shemale but thats nearly impossible for a straight person thanks for advice so far really helpful

As a trans person that is highly offensive, FYI

Killer Pigeon

analvirgin wrote: »

i being honest i dont find men attractive its the anal with a man real cock that excites me preferable shemale but thats nearly impossible for a straight person thanks for advice so far really helpful

I wouldn't say it's all too impossible for you to date transsexuals, if that's what you're interested in. I don't know if there are any dating websites that are dedicated to that, maybe someone would like to fill the OP in on that. The main thing really is I'd stick away from places like the Boilerhouse, especially if it's your first time.

apache wrote: »

it may be a lucrative market if a lesbian came up with a boilerhouse equivalent? i have often wondered :P

not for me - i'm a good girl. but i am sure there would be a market out there!

There seems to be a great lack of any venues that are specifically lesbian orientated in Ireland, I noticed, in comparison to other countries.

Meesared wrote: »

As a trans person that is highly offensive, FYI

I don't think the OP intended to offend anyone. The word "shemale" is thrown around the internet fairly profusely nowadays with little due regard to political correctness. I think it's understandable, given that the OP seems fairly new to all this, not to have realised that the word was offensive to some.

analvirgin

thanks kp ive boycotted the idea thanks to the advice from use and im actually meeting someone threw gaydar know is it safe to meet them at there apartment any advice again would be great

Killer Pigeon

analvirgin wrote: »

thanks kp ive boycotted the idea thanks to the advice from use and im actually meeting someone threw gaydar know is it safe to meet them at there apartment any advice again would be great

How long have you been chatting with this person? I would suggest not meeting them at their apartment first.

Meet them in some public location, like a pub, café, somewhere where there are people around, etc.. If the individual is not happy meeting in public then warning bells should start ringing in your head.

If they agree to meet you chat to them for a while, weigh the person up, see if you can trust them. Trust your instincts. Remember, don't be afraid to say 'no'. If you're happy with him then you can move it back to their apartment.

TylerIE

analvirgin wrote: »

thanks kp ive boycotted the idea thanks to the advice from use and im actually meeting someone threw gaydar know is it safe to meet them at there apartment any advice again would be great

Dont meet anyone until you get to know them properly. Preferably meet in public a few times for coffee or whatever.

IF you must meet someone:
Tell someone where your going or where they can find out where your going or at least leave a note somewhere that will be found if anything happens with the details of your account and password and the address of their house, just in case.

Dont get drunk or drink alcohol or take anything illicit before going. It might numb any discomfort (mental or physical) but will slow your reaction times.

If you feel unsafe or uncomfortable get out.

Bring your own "safety equipment". Dont rely on whoever it is to provide it. Make sure they use it - no exceptions or excuses from them.

If you get there and its a 75 year old hairy monster, who sent you a pic of a 25 year old rugby player dont feel under any obligation to stay. Some people may pressure you into things - if you change your mind at any point just say no and leave.

Killer Pigeon

I'd second everything TylerIE says above.

whiteblueman

Surely going to the boilerhouse is a better bet that meeting some random in their place? Safer and you have a choice as there would be a few guys there...I assume.

BlackRoom

There are any amount of TS and TV escorts in this country that will do that for you. Just google escorts in ireland. Choose one with lots of positive reviews.

oisindoyle

Killer Pigeon wrote: »

I know it's debatable, but I'd call places like the Boilerhouse breeding grounds from HIV and other STDs. I know they might help fulfill some insatiable fantasy but at the end of the day it's sleazy sex with sleazy people (no offense) and you don't know where they've been.

Thats a ridiculous comment and extremely narrow minded..You could/can meet a guy in a bar and at the end of the night go home with him ,whos to say hes not HIV or has an STD?

Is that encounter not "sleazy sex"??

The reality is no matter who you meet for sex ALWAYS play safe .

The boilerhouse is a place guys go to meet other guys for sex ,,,,it is no different to meeting a guy off gaydar for sex or meeting a guy in a bar and going home for sex.
you have obviously never been to the BH but have a judegemenal ignorant attitude to those that go there .
I have been (and many who critise it go as well ) to the BH and I have met extremely nice decent guys in there.
So less with the narrow mindedness and the holier than though attitude