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Abuse & self esteem, embarrassment

  • 04-11-2011 3:46pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I've been in therapy for a few years now but I haven't brought up the fact that I was sexually abused as a child. I didn't think it mattered and I didn't want it on my health record. But I sometimes think about it and what people would think about me, whether anyone ever knew, whether it has had in influence in my never having a girlfriend or sexual self esteem issues.
    I always figured that was because the kids I grew up with made me feel bad for not having kissed a girl back then, or that a girl in my class messed me about with yes and no's, then rejected me.

    I don't want to bring up abuse in a session if he's not really gonna be able to do anything I can't do myself. I would feel stupid for having brought it up then.
    Would CBT work with this episode? I have done CBT before, so I could maybe write out evidence or alternative explanations for the memories and feelings I have about it?

    Thanks


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  • #2
    curlzy
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    Hey OP,

    You have to talk to your counsellor about this. CBT isn't for this situation, you can't pretend this didn't happen you need to face it, talk about it and heal from there. Everything you say to your counsellor is private so don't worry about people finding out. You have my deepest sympathy, what you've been carrying around for years is the worst thing that can happen to a child. I'm so sorry that you went through that and that you're continuing to suffer. The only person that should be embarrassed or ashamed is the monster that did this to you, you did NOTHING wrong. Please please open up and talk to your counsellor about this, they will be able to help you.

    Hugs & Best of luck.


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