My friend has feelings for me.

Meninim

Im a 25 year girl and one of my best friend told me today that he has feelings for me. He said that he understand that i doesnt feel the same but that he doesnt want to lose our friendship so he still wants to be friends.

What do i do? How can i be friend with he without hurting him?

Please does anyone have an advice??

daisybelle2008

It is not your responsibility whether he is hurt or not.

He has told you he understands if you don't feel the same way and wants to remain friends. Tell him you don't feel the same way and remain friends.

Don't over complicate it or treat him any different than before.

Vicxas

The main thing is to not treat him differently, continue on as if nothing happened

fungun

Im going to go against the flow a bit here and suggest that 2 people of the opposite sex cannot be proper friends if one of them wants more. Its always going to be there hanging over everything, him wanting more. Any comment/hug is suddenly more loaded than before. And is any bf of yours going to be ok with a friend of yours who wants more?
So Id say to him you can still be friends and by all means try, but I think you will find your friendship fading a little.

Meninim

I think i have t agree with agree with fungun. I cant se how i just should go on and act like befor. fo exempel he is the guy that i used to talk with if i had meet up with a guy on the weekend. I told him everything. That must be aweful to hear if you have feelings fo a person. So i cant just go on like before.
Maby it is like u say daisybelle2008 that it isnt my responsibility whether he is hurt or not. But i cant help caring. Hi is after all my friend and he is the last person that i want to do harm to.

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Firetrap

It happened to me years ago - male friend developed feelings for me. While I tried to act as normal, things certainly weren't and it did make things somewhat awkward and uncomfortable. We're not really in touch now which, on reflection, is something I'm happier with even though he has a girlfriend now.

Semele

A friend of mine told me a couple of years ago that he loved me. i didn't feel the same and we talked it through but he was adamant that he wanted to remain friends anyway. There have been some awkward moments, such as when i began dating another guy in the group, but I have tried to remind myself that it's not my responsibility and as long as I try to be considerate and not rub his face in it then I have nothing to feel bad about. i have found, over the last couple of years though, that we are better friends when he's dating someone. We genuinely get along well then, but when he's single I find that he comes across as a bit bitter and sarky, so I don't enjoy catching up with him as much then.

A0

Male - Female = Friends? Hehe! Be friend with him but a close friendship will never work.