Can I take it as a No then?

killer kilbane

I asked this girl out by text (which is probably the wrong way to do it) but anyway its the way I done it. I had gotten to know her fairly well before and had asked her out last time but she had just recently broken up with her ex at the time and wasn't looking for anything at the time. So that was fine I said no problem and if she ever changed her mind to let me know. Moving on 6 months to now, she started to getting a good bit more friendly towards me and seemed to be getting to a point where so may be ready for something to happen.

We were texting each other after a night out after leaving the pub. I was saying to her how much she ment to me and how much i liked her, and all she said was I just dont believe you. Now maybe as we were texting after the pub maybe she thought I was after something else.
The day after this I was talking to her on facebook and seemed to be ok.

So to show I was serious about what i had texted to her i decided to ask her out yesterday and got no response to it.

Can I take it as a no or is there anything else i can try?

sarahbro

It was only yesterday? Maybe she has no credit or there could be any number of reasons? I would give her another while to text back
Good luck!

I am a friend

Sure we couldn't possibly tell you (if you don't even know) if she wants to date you or not.

Chances are though seeing as she turned you down before and hasn't replied yet that she may not be as interested in you as you are in her.

ABajaninCork

TBH I wouldn't answer you either if you asked me out by text!!

What's wrong with asking the lady out by calling her at the very least? Or you could be really old-fashioned and ask her out personally!

Faint heart never won fair lady and all that, so good luck!

killer kilbane

should i ring her to ask her out so or is it too late?

I am a friend

killer kilbane wrote: »

should i ring her to ask her out so or is it too late?

Do ring her and ask her but if she says no again then Just accept her decision and move on. Good luck.

LegacyUser

I don't get this 'dont ask by txt!' malarky. I always get numbers in nightclubs then txt them and subsequently ask them out after sending them a few initial txts. I always get a yes, its never been a problem.

In your case I think you may have come on a bit strong by telling her how much she meant to you and how much you liked her considering you've never even been out. You probably should have kept the txts banterful and then said 'by the way do you want to go for a drink with me?'

It seems you've scared her OP, and rightly so if you came on that strong.

killer kilbane

dont want to be seeing as desperate either or be pressurizing her into something either. Should i leave it a day or 2

LegacyUser

I am a friend wrote: »

Do ring her and ask her but if she says no again then Just accept her decision and move on. Good luck.

DO NOT RING HER. she has gotten your messege, if she wants to go out then she'll reply.

I am a friend

With all due respect you are coming across as desperate. If she hasnt answered you in 2 days time then you have your answer. Better to pull off the plaster and do it now.

killer kilbane

done it she said ya we can meet some day but she said been honest she wasnt looking for a boyfriend and we can meet as friends.
Which is a definite answer, now what next to do? Would rather have her as a friend than nothing at all

I am a friend

Ok well there is your answer - she doesn't want a date and just wants to be friends. Time to move on from her now.

Doesnt sound like you would be happy as just friends so maybe you need to disappear for a while to get your head together before you can be friends with her again. Time to looking at meeting someone new.

LegacyUser

killer kilbane wrote: »

I was saying to her how much she ment to me and how much i liked her, and all she said was I just dont believe you.

This might have frightened her off a bit. To someone who has recently broken up it could seem a bit intense.
If you think you can handle it maybe just stay as friends, something might still happen if you let it naturally or it might not. Dont stay friends now just to see if something happens though. Be willing to accept that friendship might be all there is. (and whats wrong with that if you can handle it)

killer kilbane

IF i was to ask to meet up with her anyway as friends. What can we do, just go for a coffee or something?

LegacyUser

killer kilbane wrote: »

IF i was to ask to meet up with her anyway as friends. What can we do, just go for a coffee or something?

Come on man. Why are you doing this to your self? She has no interest and never will. Just walk away now before you get more obsessed with her. Trust me.

I am a friend

Why would you want to meet her as a friend when she has just turned you down?

Op take the hint - she doesn't want a romantic relationship do why are you still chasing her. You will start freaking her out if you don't give her space.