Caught Looking at Porn

LegacyUser

Going unreg for this as it is a slightly embarrassing issue.

Basically, from looking at my laptops history, i have discovered that my dad is using it to search for porn when there is no one in the house.

I have no idea how to approach this, I have put a password on the laptop but I will need to give both him and my mother the password as the use the laptop for Skype etc.

What do I do?

Absolutely positively nothing. Don't do a thing. Most people watch porn, as does your father, obviously.

Why would you feel like you had to do anything?

Emme

Can you change the security settings so that searches don't return porn? Set it to "safe".

January

Eh... so? He's a grown man...

PseudoFamous

Unreg2001 wrote: »

What do I do?

Teach him about incognito mode

Silverfish

I can understand your discomfort OP - me and my parter wouldn't even use each others laptops without permission.

Is there any way you could persuade your parents to get their own laptop?

Oryx

You could do nothing. After all, its not that unusual, just a bit embarrassing from your point of view.

But if youd really rather not have him viewing porn on your computer, or if youre worried about the security issues etc, then you could approach it by having a little tutorial with your dad. Explain some 'new' security features or a new browser, anything you like, and as part of it, explain how the browser history works.... So that he understands that you can see what he has seen, if you like, without coming straight out and saying it. It will give him a chance to wriggle out of doing this without being confronted or embarrassed about it.

Beruthiel

Unreg2001 wrote: »

I have no idea how to approach this

You don't.
He's a grown up and can do as he please.

Or

Jeez ya durty auld fella Dad, you could hide your net history! (That's the one I'd use on my Dad, but he has a sense of humour and can take a slagging)

MitchKoobski

January wrote: »

Eh... so? He's a grown man...

Eh he's using his son's laptop to look at it.

Either set safesearch on everything or teach him to use incognito. Either way it'll probably come out eventually.

mathproblem

yeah, you should teach your dad how to delete internet history

he's allowed look at whay he likes obviously but i could see how it might be uncomfortable to see it there listed

Beruthiel

Beruthiel wrote: »

Unreg2001 wrote: »

I have no idea how to approach this

You don't.
He's a grown up and can do as he please.

Or

Jeez ya durty auld fella Dad, you could hide your net history! (That's the one I'd use on my Dad, but he has a sense of humour and can take a slagging)

The only thing with that is the possible embarrassment it might cause for the father.
Someone suggested teaching them about incognito mode, this is a great idea and could be used with someone else's suggestion with sitting them down and going over the security features, but make sure not to mention porn, just joke that incognito mode is great if you're trying to search for a surprise for your mother.

I am a friend

Not trying to cause ructions here but is it all adult porn? You can never be too careful with what's being accessed on your laptop.

Ken.

Set your folks up their own user account on the laptop. Let them use that and you use your account.

seamus

lucyfur09 wrote: »

Set your folks up their own user account on the laptop. Let them use that and you use your account.

Yep, best solution here.

Just say that you're sick of your settings being changed or something so you're giving him his own account.

LegacyUser

Yeah it is all adult porn - i totally understand that he is an adult etc and could look at what he wants but the fact that he is using my laptop for it. For example, when i opened my laptop the other day, it was clearly in the history, what if my girlfriend had seen it?

Cue deluge of embarrassing questions!

Pataman

Put cling film on the keyboard

orchidsrpretty

My Bf looks at porn on my laptop, I always know from the deleted history. It really annoys me as I have no virus protection on the laptop and have gotten a few virus' from it. Just let him know that "dubious" sites may have a higher chance of carrying virus, so not to be going on anything thats looks a bit dogde as you don't have anti-virus software.

x Purple Pawprints x

lucyfur09 wrote: »

Set your folks up their own user account on the laptop. Let them use that and you use your account.

OP I would agree with lucyfur09, I think setting up another user account is the best thing to do in this situation.

Hitchhiker's Guide to...

orchidsrpretty wrote: »

My Bf looks at porn on my laptop, I always know from the deleted history. It really annoys me as I have no virus protection on the laptop and have gotten a few virus' from it. Just let him know that "dubious" sites may have a higher chance of carrying virus, so not to be going on anything thats looks a bit dogde as you don't have anti-virus software.

How do you not have virus protection?! - just go to Avast or AVG and download their free anti-virus which is better than most paid-for anti-virus software.

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C14N

I think a lot of people miss the point here. It's not that there's something inherently wrong with what he's doing, it's just an incredibly awkward issue for a lot of people discussing sex with their parents. I was quite young when I found out my dad watched porn on his laptop based on Google search history. It was sort of shocking at the time and I've never raised the issue because I don't know how.

I think this is the problem the OP is really having.

Firetrap

Does he really need to raise the issue though? I'm not sure who'd be the more mortified: him or his dad. I think the idea of separate accounts is probably the best. Unless he goes installing some sort of net nanny type software on the laptop, he's not going to stop his dad going to these sites.

Nudey_Nun

I would be very careful how you approach this one Op, you could unnerve your father a great deal if you confront him. Best bet in my opinion is to subtly hint that you know he was looking at porno on your computer, and he will get the message without having to make a big deal out of it.

snafuk35

Unreg2001 wrote: »

Yeah it is all adult porn - i totally understand that he is an adult etc and could look at what he wants but the fact that he is using my laptop for it. For example, when i opened my laptop the other day, it was clearly in the history, what if my girlfriend had seen it?

Cue deluge of embarrassing questions!

Does your girlfriend think you don't look at porn too? She probably looks at porn herself. I'm surprised if there is anyone between the age of 14 and 84 not looking at porn. You have nothing to worry about!:) It's actually quite funny when you think about? Stop worrying and just have a laugh about it! Relax!

Overheal

Leave a shortcut on the desktop to start Firefox in incognito mode and step back

C14N

Firetrap wrote: »

Does he really need to raise the issue though? I'm not sure who'd be the more mortified: him or his dad. I think the idea of separate accounts is probably the best. Unless he goes installing some sort of net nanny type software on the laptop, he's not going to stop his dad going to these sites.

Well I guess that's the question. It seems like something one would want to raise if only for the sake of being open with each other. I don't really know what he should do, it's a tough issue but chances are, most people wouldn't bring it up, for better or worse.

Delancey

OP , it can be difficult recognising a parent as an an individual with their own sexuality but in that regard they are just like all of us.
As others have advised - say nothing , to do otherwise will cause deep embarrassment all round.

Ickle Magoo

If it's your laptop - you have every right to ask that he not use it for surfing for porn, whether that's something you actually want to/feel you can do really depends on the relationship you have with your father. You could drop a not-so-subtle hint about your laptop recording every site ever visited and that's why the short-cut to the incognito mode of the browser of your choice has been added just for him... *wink*

If you just don't want to go there at all, then set up a completely different a/c for everyone, get them to password protect their own and password protect yours - that way it isn't going to be as obvious what anyone else is doing....

All the best. :cool:

I am a friend

If you don't want to have a serious chat withhim but wAnt him to stop, you could, when he next asks, say the laptop has caught an sti and you need to bring it to the vd(u) clinic

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magicface1

how do you know it your dad?