Should I tell?

LegacyUser

ok, so i am a 25 year old female virgin. and let me begin by saying im defo no prude. so when i was in my late teens, i was going out with a guy for over a yr, at this point i didnt feel ready, then i found out he cheated on me, and we broke up, cue a lot of self pity and loss of self confidence and comfort eating and i piled on weight and stopped going out and even if i did, any guys i attracted i wouldnt pursue....

fast forward to last year, after some time away i got my confidence back and have been enjoying my time out on the social scene. I am not looking for a boyfriend, but over the last year, there have been two guys i have been kissing on nights out (at diff stages of the year). I got very close to one of these guys and we fooled around a good bit....but i couldnt bring myself to have full sex with him for the fear of telling him im a virgin. Is there anyway I could get away with not telling him im a virgin? i know i will probably end up with him again at some stage, and i am ready to sleep with him but im guessing my lack of exp, bleeding etc may give the game away and i really dont want people to know,

LegacyUser

I have heard that the bleeding is not as much an issue the later in life the first time you have sex as a woman. Though I couldn't possible know as I am a man. You could easily use dildo beforehand which may break your hymen. There is no need to tell the other person that you are a virgin unless that is important to you. Some want it with a special person, some want to just get it over with an out of the way.

I was pretty late loosing my virginity much like yourself, I just wanted to get it over with and out of the way. But in the end it happen with someone special from a different country and we still keep it touch, altough she doesn't know it was my first time, all that pent up sexual frustration turned me in to a porn star apparently and all went well. Enjoy yourself.

:-)

kjl

Look, you are 25. It is perfectly normal to still be a virgin at this age despite what television shows like jersey shore or any of this over hyped rubbish will have you believe.

If you want the truth, it would be very unlikely that a guy could tell you are a virgin from having sex with you and I can assure you that the first time with anyone can be awkward even if you have had sex hundreds of times. But two people can work on it and get better together, they learn what each other likes and eventually sex with someone can be amazing.

If you feel you do want to tell him and he goes off you or reacts badly, then feck him, he wasn't worth it anyway. I would be personally honoured if someone chose to lose their virginity with me and would certainly not judge.

My last bit of advice is that he will be just as nervous as you the first time he has sex with you, at 25 no guy is a don won sex expert despite what they may say to each other.

Try and enjoy yourself, you will find it's a very natural thing and like your first kiss is pretty hard to get wrong.

Most guys probably won't be able to tell that you are a virgin, but you might be better off telling them in case they move too quickly and hard that might just cause pain and discomfort.

Damn mobile internet not displaying that my post was successful leading me to trying again.

Most guys probably won't be able to tell that you are a virgin, but you might be better off telling them in case they move too quickly and hard that might just cause pain and discomfort. Plus if there is any bleeding, his knowing will cancel out any surprise.

Sex is amazing, but don't expect your first time to be this way. Just use each time to get better. Enjoy it!

Joey the lips

Its most likely a bloke will find it nice that your a virgin so dont be afraid to tell him. The important thing though is not to tell him your a virgin but for the 2 of you to take it easy and enjoy yourself.

If you are worried that he will reject you or label you in anyway because of what you are then he is not worthy to have you. From a mans perspective i would advise you to relax and enjoy yourself. A man is generally turned on by the fact his partner is happy and comfortable.