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Am I being selfish?

  • 31-10-2011 10:08pm
    #1
    loadstosay
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    need some advice so here it goes...bit of background history:been best friends with a guy for 8 years now..we work together..now fast forward up to two years ago and both our relationships broke down with our other halves due to different circumstances.We both have children...mine bein alot older than his.It was great to have each other to lean on and as time went by we both realised we had feelings for each other.We decided to keep things quiet as it was early days.we get on so well and i know we re both crazy about each other so whats the problem your wondering....well its now two years down the line and im all for tellin people but he s not.im finding it so hard pretending to be just friends both at work and out socially.i rarely see him at weekends as he usually has his kids and as there young i suppose he doesnt want me over there confusing things yet his ex partner is seeing soneone whohas met his kids.I have no problem with him coming over to mine but then again my kids are older.Sometimes if we do make plans his ex girlfriend might ring at the last minute askin him to take the kids and then thats our plans gone out the window.I know there his kids and obviously they will always be his priority but it still hurts .I feel like i cant make any plans with him as his weekends are taken up with the kids and we work all week.Its now monday night and i havnt seen him since wednesday as he s taken a few extra days off to have his kids.Maybe i am being selfish that i want to have a little bit of him to myself some weekends and the whole keepin the relationship quiet is driving me nuts.Ive spoken to him about it and he doesnt see what the problem is.As far as he is concerned its no one s business at work or out socially and even if they did know what difference would it make.what do you guys think?do we have a future...i cant see the reason for hiding any more .As ive said to him "we ve done nothin wrong and been through a toughtime. why do we not deserve to be happy 2" opinions appreciated


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
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    Your not being selfish, he is. 2 years you've been going out? Enough is enough, nobody is going to raise up a revolt. If he is seeing you for that long I think he should allow you in to his life fully. I hope he isn't seeing someone else behind your back and that's the reason why he won't allow you in to his world. Maybe he thinks is ex will react to the news? I don't know. There is no practical reason why he is holding back from you. I think people would be happy for you both, it sounds sweet...


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