maiden name married name

Tilly32

Hi,

Can anyone help me clear this up?

Say your name is: Shirley Carter.
You marry a guy called: Phil Mitchell

You want to keep your own name & take his, so are you:

A) Shirley Carter Mitchell
OR
Shirley Mitchell Carter

??

To me it makes sense to add on married name to your own name?
I know you can do whatever you want really, but what is the tradition??

Thanks!

Toots

AFAIK if you're keeping your old name and adding your husband's name, traditionally his name would go after yours, so your example woman would be Shirley Carter Mitchell. However, I think it's really up to the person. I use my husband's surname for everyday things and my driving licence, however on my passport I have both surnames, mine first and then his.

watna

I think it's up to you but anyone that I have know that's done it has added their husband's name on to theirs.

For those ladies that just changed their surnames to their husband's - did you change over everything? I was thinking today about things like my personal email address - currently it's my surname and first two initials. Do people normally get a new email address when they change their name? It would be a bit of a pain but I guess you'll be updating everything else at the same time. Just wondering how far people went to with their new name.

Swampy

My wife took my surname. Passport is in my surname. However her work, emails and bank acc etc are all in her maiden name. I suppose it's a gradual change over depending upon the circumstance. Mostly due to children.

Gatica

I'm planning to keep my own name. I've never heard of 2 surnames by marriage. I thought double barrel names were the only other option, and it was "his-hers", in this case Mitchell-Carter, but in that case the couple takes that name.

BC

Anytime i've seen it done its the mans name last. So Shirley Carter Mitchell.

Monife

watna wrote: »

I think it's up to you but anyone that I have know that's done it has added their husband's name on to theirs.

For those ladies that just changed their surnames to their husband's - did you change over everything? I was thinking today about things like my personal email address - currently it's my surname and first two initials. Do people normally get a new email address when they change their name? It would be a bit of a pain but I guess you'll be updating everything else at the same time. Just wondering how far people went to with their new name.

I am taking my husband's name but have only changed over my personal bank account and our joint account. I am not going to change my passport or driving licence til they run out (i'm too cheap ). Also, I am going to use my own surname for work purposes and keep my own email, too much hassle trying to let all your contacts know your new email.

The Davestator

As this double barrell name business is relatively new, I'm predicting kids with extremely long names in about 20 years!.
Child of carter mitchell marries and wants to keep her name and add her husbands name - she becomes. carter-mitchell-????.

Acoshla

The Davestator wrote: »

As this double barrell name business is relatively new, I'm predicting kids with extremely long names in about 20 years!.
Child of carter mitchell marries and wants to keep her name and add her husbands name - she becomes. carter-mitchell-????.

Double barrell isn't new, it was done within rich/powerful families for years when neither wanted to give up their name, sure look at some royalty in Europe and people in history with 3 or 4 surnames. The person with the double barrelled name could drop all of it and take their new one or drop one and add the new one to it, lots of options.

cch

The Davestator wrote: »

As this double barrell name business is relatively new, I'm predicting kids with extremely long names in about 20 years!.
Child of carter mitchell marries and wants to keep her name and add her husbands name - she becomes. carter-mitchell-????.

Somebody always brings this up when double barrelled names are mentioned... :rolleyes:
She's talking about her own name, not what to call the kids.

I researched this myself when I got married and basically, in Ireland anyway, it's the woman's surname followed by the man's surname.
If you want to be called by both surnames 100% of the time then use a hyphen; if you're more flexible and don't mind being called Mrs YYY and not Ms XXX YYY sometimes then no hyphen.

Bride2012

Monife wrote: »

I am taking my husband's name but have only changed over my personal bank account and our joint account. I am not going to change my passport or driving licence til they run out (i'm too cheap ). Also, I am going to use my own surname for work purposes and keep my own email, too much hassle trying to let all your contacts know your new email.

I came across people doing this a lot in a previous job and it caused hassle when they were applying for credit cards as the name on the proof of address (bank statement) didn't match the name on the passport/driving licence. Had to produce marriage cert etc. to get around it, usually didn't have it on them so they couldn't be processed on the day.

I'm planning to go Shirley Mitchell but changing my middle name to Carter so for work and publishing I'll be Shirley Carter Mitchell so I'll be recognised as my surname is unusual and my fiance's isn't. (Great idea using Shirley and Phil as an example, some of the threads on this subject get confusing to explain with letters etc.):)

cch

Monife wrote: »

I am not going to change my passport or driving licence til they run out (i'm too cheap ).

You can change the name and address on your driving licence free of charge, just need two new photos

Bride2012 wrote: »

(Great idea using Shirley and Phil as an example, some of the threads on this subject get confusing to explain with letters etc.):)

Oops, guilty as charged

watna

I'm kind of in the all or nothing camp - if I change it one place I'll want to change it everywhere.

Annoyingly I just renewed my passport 6 months ago. I told the consulate I was getting married next year and was changing my name. I asked could I get a short term passport or change the name in it once I got it. They said there was nothing I could do but apply for a new one. So annoying! I have a feeling the passport will be in my maiden name until it expires, not sure if I'll want to pay again for it.

I have a passport from another country due for renewal and they said I can get it in my maiden name and just get a name change thing added in when I get married. So much more convenient.