Thinking of starting!!

closeline

Hi there...I am 19 years old and I am thinking about starting to drink. Surprisingly I have never drank yet but I think it might be time now...When I go out to a nightclub it is terrible. I never dance. Sometimes when everyone is on the dancefloor I do go out but that is usual near the end of the night. Even though everyone is drunk I feel very self conscious of what I am doing and what the other people think of me. Thats why I never dance or rarely go out. I am half way through second year of college and I have yet to go out in that city..Including 1st year...Yes I know that is bad...I like going to the pub...It is probably because people dont dance there and I sometimes I like talking to people when they are just talking rubbish. It is just the nightclubs that I hate. I am just constantly looking at the phone to see if it is nearly closing time yet...I am a very level headed person and am not easily pushed around...Many of friends have asked me before why I dont drink...I am proud to say that I dont drink. I really couldnt care less what they think of me...The reason I am thinking of drinking is for my personal enjoyment. Also, it is hard to get friendly with women if you are not dancing or drunk...I wouldnt be the best to chat up a person so maybe with a bit of drink that might help...Also, as I have yet to getting into it yet I think I would be able to handle myself...If I do start I probably would only do it every so often..Christmas, Halloween, Easter, few occasions in the summer..I am not that bothered about going out thta much and I couldnt see myself drinking every weekend like many of my friends..If I do, I think it would be pints, no shots or anything like that...I dont think they are great for you ha!! What do ye non-drinkers think about this post??

J_E

I'm 19 and I tried it for the first time this year. I didn't really see what the fuss was about. If anything I preferred being sober than drunk. I didn't get very drunk but I just felt stupid and not myself. I guess that's a feeling a lot of people love but it wasn't for me, I'll only drink occasionally to be social, and not really to get drunk. Don't let anyone force you into it, I fell into that trap early on, got into the wrong group of people, wish it had started differently. I'm pretty proud of being a non-drinker too. I don't say it aloud but I feel good, knowing I can have a good time without needing a crutch. It's sad to see some people out there needing a drink to be able to socialise.

closeline

Thanks for replying...Well to be honest I would never go out to get drunk, just to get a bit tipsy or hyper..I dont think I would be pushed over by anyone at all so I dont think that would be a problem. Yes it does feel good when you can go out and enjoy yourself without taking a drink.

oldyouth

I think too many people mix up responsible drinking and drinking to get drunk. I personally love to drink but I don't think I've beenwhat I would consider to be 'drunk' for a few years now

Sunnyisland

old youth wrote: »

I think too many people mix up responsible drinking and drinking to get drunk. I personally love to drink but I don't think I've been what I would consider to be 'drunk' for a few years now

Nothing wrong with having a few drinks once your life doesn't start to revolve around it.Would even go to say that getting drunk now and then is no big deal,when the enjoyment starts to leave your drinking and the drink starts controlling you instead of you controlling the drink then you know its time to take a step back.

mrmorgan

closeline wrote: »

Hi there...I am 19 years old and I am thinking about starting to drink. Surprisingly I have never drank yet but I think it might be time now...When I go out to a nightclub it is terrible. I never dance. Sometimes when everyone is on the dancefloor I do go out but that is usual near the end of the night. Even though everyone is drunk I feel very self conscious of what I am doing and what the other people think of me. Thats why I never dance or rarely go out. I am half way through second year of college and I have yet to go out in that city..Including 1st year...Yes I know that is bad...I like going to the pub...It is probably because people dont dance there and I sometimes I like talking to people when they are just talking rubbish. It is just the nightclubs that I hate. I am just constantly looking at the phone to see if it is nearly closing time yet...I am a very level headed person and am not easily pushed around...Many of friends have asked me before why I dont drink...I am proud to say that I dont drink. I really couldnt care less what they think of me...The reason I am thinking of drinking is for my personal enjoyment. Also, it is hard to get friendly with women if you are not dancing or drunk...I wouldnt be the best to chat up a person so maybe with a bit of drink that might help...Also, as I have yet to getting into it yet I think I would be able to handle myself...If I do start I probably would only do it every so often..Christmas, Halloween, Easter, few occasions in the summer..I am not that bothered about going out thta much and I couldnt see myself drinking every weekend like many of my friends..If I do, I think it would be pints, no shots or anything like that...I dont think they are great for you ha!! What do ye non-drinkers think about this post??

i was the same as you at your age. didn't drink, went out and enjoyed myself. then i started and it totally took me over (alcoholism runs in my family anyway) i felt it gave me the push to talk to the ladies.

but slowly it took me over and now i feel destyoyed from the stuff.

im not saying dont drink. but be carefull and try not to get warped in like i did.

languagenerd

(I'm 20, don't drink and also hate clubs.)

There's nothing wrong with starting to drink, but if you do, make sure it's for the right reasons! Don't start thinking that it's some magical elixir that'll fix all your woes or that it'll suddenly make the clubs fun. Don't start because you think you need it, don't start because you think you have to. If you just want to try it, or you think you'll like the taste or the sensation of it, then by all means go ahead. But starting because you think you need it to have fun is never going to be a good idea.

I hate clubs too because I hate the music there - and I don't think drinking would change my music taste - and I also can't dance. But personally, I don't want to be out of control in that environment! Yeah, it might help you feel less inhibitions for a few hours, but how will you feel the next day if someone tells you how you were acting?
That's just my take on it, it all depends on the person.

Good luck either way

closeline

mrmorgan wrote: »

i was the same as you at your age. didn't drink, went out and enjoyed myself. then i started and it totally took me over (alcoholism runs in my family anyway) i felt it gave me the push to talk to the ladies.

but slowly it took me over and now i feel destyoyed from the stuff.

im not saying dont drink. but be carefull and try not to get warped in like i did.

Thats the thing, i dont think it would take over me. There is no one in my family background that was an alcohlic or anything. But my father and brother (one year older than me) drink and I have never seen them drunk. They wouldnt do it that often like so at least there is no family background.

L.Jenkins

Hi Closeline. When you find you want to start drinking, I know you don't want to go over board, but you will begin to learn your limit. Just becareful as most of us have learned it's not something to go mad with.

davemc180

closeline wrote: »

Thats the thing, i dont think it would take over me. There is no one in my family background that was an alcohlic or anything. But my father and brother (one year older than me) drink and I have never seen them drunk. They wouldnt do it that often like so at least there is no family background.

im sorry but family background means nothing, it can creep up on you without you even notice, like for example i can remember many times been out with friends in clubs or where ever, few drinks everythings fine, have 1 more and half way threw it boom ya feel it coming...

it depends on your body, and how you process it, some people can have 10 pints and be in the same state as someone who had 1..

you wont no till you learn for yourself, my advice is stay away from all spirits till you get used to a few pints..

spirits will get you into a state in a matter of no time, pints will to but you can control your intake alot easier..

enjoy