first time

pinkyb

hi i'm form dublin and we 'meet' people here (aka snog/kiss with tongue)
A guy i really like wants to meet me but its my first time and im so nervous. the thing im most nervous is how to breathe i am not too good a breathing threw my nose so and advice.... also people say don't do the ''washing machine'' so what do i do with my tongue... i know he is not a fidget (he has meet someone before) and most of my friends have too so please any advice on this thanks much appreciated x

banquo

This is so cute!

(I'll let a lady give advice)

baby and crumble

Ok, well.

First of all, a lot of kissing does come naturally. So don't worry, you'll be surprised how quickly you get the hang of it.

First of all, don't go straight in with your mouth open- kiss a little bit with your lips first, then see how you get on. You want to try touching his tongue with yours, without being too forceful. This will also help keep your breathing regular, and not just through your nose. You don't want to seal your lips together and create a vacuum, then you really won't be able to breathe! The danger if you do just fuse together is that it becomes all about the tongue and you just end up mashing it around, which isn't pleasant for anyone involved (the washing machine).

I feel weird being more explicit than that considering I'd say you're fairly young- maybe have a look at some kissing scenes on youtube and see how they do it. You'll see what I mean about it being more about lips and having a kind of rhythm than just lash together and wiggle your tongue around.

Best of luck, OP, and remember- your first kiss is something you'll remember for a long time. It probably won't be perfect and it almost definitely won't be your best kiss ever, but it's fun. And hey, practice makes perfect!

LegacyUser

Just remember to swallow before you go tongue wagging...

Well it's important for you to know, even though this guy has met someone before, he is in no way experienced! He's probably just as terrified as you of what you'll think of him, and it's far more likely that he'll be a terrible kisser than it is that you will.

I'll describe the typical "meet" to you (although it's probably changed since I was that age), but if yours doesn't go this way don't worry, just go with it.
- he comes up to you
- puts his hands on your hips/waist
- you put your hands on his shoulders or around the back of his neck
- tilt your head (don't wanna bump noses!) you'll know which side to tilt to at the time, as you should just go the opposite way to him
- start with a peck, softly and afterwards don't move away. If he's nervous he might go straight in for snogging, but don't worry, he's the one that will feel embarrassed.
- then repeated closed-lipped kisses, each time getting longer and pausing less between them.
- he should start to open his mouth (if he hasn't already)
- DO NOT shove your tongue in his mouth, or try to reach his tongue. When/if the tongue bit starts, your tongues should meet in the middle, which since your lips are against each other should be as far as your tongue would reach if you touch the top of your bottom lip with your tongue.
- The motion should not be circular, aka "washing machine", but more like you're sorta really gently massaging the end of his tongue with yours (this bit I can't really explain properly).
- When guys have only just started kissing girls, they're usually a bit nervous and do tend to be a bit fast about it (in my opinion). So if he's a bit "washing machine", or sloppy, or whatever, just go with the flow and try to enjoy yourself.

And a tip: watch out for teeth. It's very rare, but it's horrible if you bump teeth with someone, so make sure you're careful.