Opinion on something please (issue with a girl!)...

LegacyUser

Ok so I've seen this girl on a couple of occasions but unfortunately she has a boyfriend.....

We've talked a good bit etc... and went to the cinema at the weekend. Afterwards we went back to her place and chatted some more.

We shared some pretty passionate kisses but didn't take it any further.

Anyway I headed home at about 2am on Sunday morning.

I've text her twice since but I haven't got a reply from her. I think she may not be replying to me because of the situation she's in and feels that if she doesn't communicate with me then nothing will happen between us. At this stage I think it would be best to leave the contact until mid/late this week.

Saturday night felt real to me.

Any opinions on how best to approach this?

MitchKoobski

Waaaaaaait.

"She has a boyfriend"

Stop the contact altogether!

Nevermind the fact shes going around to the cinema and kissing you while she has a bf, imagine how the poor boyfriend would feel knowing you want to keep going with it knowing she has a boyfriend.

LegacyUser

I know!

The idea of starting something up with a girl who has a boyfriend normally wouldn't cross my mind at all. This feels different to me though.

I really think this girl is special and I do really like her.

I really want to see her again and just see how things go. I'm not looking for sex here or anything like that I want to see if the feeling still feels real.

She's so special she cheated on her boyfriend with you

forget about her

I am a friend

Oh she is special alright - it takes someone special to brazenly go to the cinema in a date when she already has a boyfriend.

What in the name of god are you at?

I'm confused!

I'm confused! wrote: »

The idea of starting something up with a girl who has a boyfriend normally wouldn't cross my mind at all. This feels different to me though.

To be honest what I take from the above quote is that in theory you wouldn't get with someone who is taken, but now that you actually like someone who is taken, all of a sudden you're looking for excuses, or special circumstances, or something to validate the fact that you're willing to disregard the boyfriend. And the best you can come up with is that she's "special". That it's "different". You obviously have good intentions, so just think to yourself, if it really was justified to cheat with her, wouldn't you be able to come up with a reason that's a bit more substantial?

She's with someone else. She hasn't left him for you. If she did leave him for you, it's likely there'd be a repeat performance with you in the unfortunate position of boyfriend. She's clearly not happy with only being with her boyfriend. If she wants some extra male attention, please don't let it be you; you'll only end up hurt. This is something that is inevitably going to unfold with her boyfriend whether you're the other guy or whether she finds someone else. I'd back off if I were you; maybe try again if/when she breaks up with the current guy she's with.

lau1247

op, even if you get with her, it'll always play at the back of your mind that will she or won't she cheat on you like what she's doing to the current boyfriend..

As with all things with life, it's a load of if and buts

qwertytlk

Just curious, if yo did end up getting into a relationship with this girl, would you be able to trust her 100% like everyone else trusts their partners at the begining of a relationship?
My advice would be to cut any type of sexual contact/kissing with her untill she is single, then see how things go,
think of the boyfriend, how would you feel if that was you?