To bring a date to Weddings or not?

LegacyUser

Hey just curious as to what to do in this situation. I am currently single and don’t know many guys. Most of them are not single so hard to find a man I could ask to be a date at a wedding.

I have a couple of Weddings to attend too where I need a date! Any other Wedding I go to be with a member of family. I have a couple of female friends I could have as a back up but for an over night stay might be easier to have a date…? I’d nearly go on my own but would think it awkward if didn’t have someone with me?

What do you think? Any advice would be great thanks!

Squiggler

Personally I think it would be better to bring someone you're close to and comfortable with (close girl friend, sibling) than to bring a relative stranger.

If you will know a lot of people at the wedding you could go on your own. Who knows, you might meet someone nice there

LegacyUser

I'm going to one next weekend on my own as me and my fella split up at the weekend (wasnt the worlds greatest love affair anyway). I figure I'll know enough people there, so I dont really mind too much. I wouldnt like to go to one on my own if I didnt know many people though. I'd find a girlfriend to go with I think.

Sleepy

Far better to go on your own imho. I've been to loads of weddings solo both when I was single and, more recently, when we can't get a babysitter. Much better craic than an extended date in an environment where neither of you can easily end it if it's not going well.

As Squiggler says, you might meet someone you like there and what then? A cousin of mine met her husband at a mutual friends' wedding and I'd be very surprised if it's an unusual way of meeting! If it's a wedding where you won't know anyone at all, bring a friend who's outgoing that'll help you get to know the other guests

woodchuck

I think bringing a random date would be even worse than going alone! Instead of just you not knowing anyone, there’s a pair of you in it and you’re ‘obliged’ to keep each other company and it may turn out that you don’t have much in common. At least if you’re on your own you’ve more opportunity to be interacting with other people there and hopefully find some people that are fun to hang out with for the evening.

Assuming you got a +1 on the invite I’d either go alone or bring a friend/relative.

LegacyUser

To be honest, there won't be that many people I will know at either Wedding. The two friend's weddings, I know the Bride's very well and have met the Groom so know them both, I only know the family of one of the Brides, while with the other Bride there will probably be a mutual friend at the wedding which wouldn't be too bad.

Also one Wedding won't be too far from where I am so wouldn't be a big deal bringing a date or friend as my plus one while the other Wedding will be up the country so will have to stay over night. I am hoping I might meet someone before then or if I happen to at the Weddings so be it.

There will be a good few near my age in one Wedding while the other be a little older crowd but not much older. In a way I be happy to go on my own but it would be nice to able to bring a friend at least, I have someone to talk to.

Thanks for all your advice!

solovely

Are you sure you're even being invited with a +1? Lots of couples don't bother any more (pretty rude I know, but times have changed), so before you start fretting, find that out for sure.

I have been to more weddings alone than I have been with someone and always have more fun, but then I've always known other people at the weddings, and I'm an outgoing person.

If you don't know enough people, I'd bring a female friend or sibling and run it by the bride and groom first. As the others said, bringing a guy you've just met could be awkward and a lot of pressure. Also, it gives out a message that you are super keen/ desperate (IMHO). Also, remember if you bring someone (friend or date), you are kinda obliged to pay their share of the present and room for the night, so it can make it more pricey for you!

ash23

If I am going to a wedding where I know a lot of people there I go alone.
If I won't know many people I bring a sister/female friend to keep me company.