Seeking advice (Long distance)

branne2003

Hi all,

Wondering if anyone can offer advice...my boyfriend (of 9 years) and I have found ourselves in a tricky situation. He is currently in Clare doing a training course. He won't know until this time next year if he will be based in Clare/Dublin/Cork. I, on the other hand, have a permanent job on the Dublin/Wicklow border. It isn't possible for me to get a permanent job anywhere else at present. At the moment, we see each other almost every weekend (one of us travels to the other). I am living at home - saving for the mortgage. This is great for now. However, we feel it will be difficult to sustain for another year. We have discussed renting in Portlaoise maybe (half-way between both places) but I'm not so sure about a commute each day. I'm spoiled at the moment in that it takes me 15 traffic-free minutes to get to work.

We do hope to be looking into buying a house in 2012/13.

I'm just wondering if anyone has been in this situation before/anoyone can suggest alternative ideas.

I hope I haven't waffled on too much and have made some sort of sense along the way.

Thanks in advance!

Cathmandooo

Personally I'd suck it up and stay put for a year, I know you want to live together but think about your midweek situation, how long would it taketo get home from work and how early would you leave? It sounds a tiring and money draining commute plus you wouldn't have all that much time together in the evening.

The more money you can save now the better, it'll give you a much better start when buying a house and getting a mortgage

Jo King

You should avoid a situation of both commuting daily. It is expensive and tiring. It is better to have one local and one travelling, even if it is weekend meeting only.