more fat crap :(

LegacyUser

Hi all

Reg poster just going anon for obvious reasons.

Im 26

I met my fiancé at 18 (he was 21) on a whim, , basically im with him nearly 8 years., we have been through some major stuff. I had an affair on him that ended over 4 years ago and I don’t regret it (and he knows I don’t regret it ) as it made us much closer. We have since bought a home and are getting married soon. I adore this man, but theres one thing wrong…

Our sex life

Sexually im not someone who is mad about it- I have lived with sex once every day and I have lived with sex once every few months (both in this relationship).Iv gained 6 stone in the last 8 years, Anyway ive lost a few stone in the last year and all of a sudden my fiancé has become very interested in me sexually, not that im complaining, he was at me when I was fat- just the more weight I lost the more hes interest grew.

Last night we had the most amazing night ever- 3 hours in total and he was still raring. Now im a size 16 atm and in no way slim and im thinking is he like this because ive slimmed down

Since iv slimmed down hes pulling me to bed,

I love the man- He met me at my slimmest..

Yet he still loved me at my biggest

He still had sex with me at my biggest- but since ive lost weight hes wanted to have sex more.. way more

We are getting married next year- and im worried once i have a baby i will be fat again (not that im slim now) I know he loves me for who i am but i cant help worrying:(

wealthyman

wmwamm wrote: »

Hi all

I had an affair on him that ended over 4 years ago and I don’t regret it (and he knows I don’t regret it )

Poor man, he should run while he still can.

Coriolanus

He's obviously head over heels op. I wouldn't be too worried. Sexual attraction and "love" are different things. He might be more sexually attracted to you wjen some pounds are shed but that doesn't mean he loved you less whem you had them on.

I am a friend

Well don't put on more weight. It is optional you know!!

Katgurl

Omg he sounds amazing. Just enjoy it OP and do your best to stay healthy and happy. Tbh I'm not surprised you weren't very interested in sex after gaining six stone, you probably felt sluggish and lacklustre.

CarMe

I totally agree with I am friend. The fact you're thinking about it means you can prevent it. I met my bf at a size 14 and am now a size 18, my problem was I didn't think, its almost as if one day I woke up and thought holy sh!t what happened! So you're lucky to be aware my bf still loves me all the same but of corse when I lose the weight-which I am eager to!- he will find me more attractive, there's nothing wrong with this. I am more attractive smaller so it doesn't offend me at all.

Maple

wealthyman wrote: »

Poor man, he should run while he still can.

Infacted for being an idiot and adding nothing to the thread.

Maple

Zen65

wmwamm wrote: »

im worried once i have a baby i will be fat again (not that im slim now) I know he loves me for who i am but i cant help worrying:(

You will gain weight during pregnancy of course. Unless there are some medical issues underlying your weight gain it's fair to say that you can lose the weight after you give birth. It's not easy to do this, but you've been steadily losing weight this past while so you know that you are able to lose weight. In many respects you have proven yourself to be capable of an act that very many people struggle and fail to do.

You should see yourself as very fortunate. You already have solid evidence that this man will love you as your weight changes, and many women don't know that for sure. You also know that your fiancé prefers to see you slimmer, partly because you look better that way (almost all women do) but also because your actions in getting slimmer show him that you respect yourself enough to mind your health (a must for any prospective mother) and you respect him enough to make the effort to be more pleasing to him.

Yes, he gets more amorous with you when you regain your slimmer figure, in the same way he (probably) gets more amorous with you when you make an effort with your appearance for a night out (the hair, the make-up, the dress, the heels, the .... whatever it is that says "this is me making a special effort") and that's pretty natural. Stop wondering about why it is your future husband behaves the way that almost every man behaves.... Leave it to the scientists at L'Oreal to figure that out. Instead be glad that he notices these things, and he's still so into you that he gets turned on by you as you regain your slimmer figure.

It sounds like you have a great deal of willpower when you put your mind to it. Use that strength to manage your weight down to the ideal healthy weight for your height and age, and let nature take its course with your fiancé's libido. Be sure that you work at maintaining your weight over the course of your marriage, because this fiancé sounds like a man for whom the effort is worth it.

Have a great wedding, and a great life together!

Be at peace,

Z