Love

LegacyUser

Hey guys,

My boyfriend and I are one of those sickening couples in college who are swept up in the honeymoon period at the moment.
We are both 20 and met in August. We've been together about two months now. I am crazy about him and I think he is about me too.
But it's a different kind of crazy. As in, when I look at him, I feel safe and at home. I am myself and he reminds me of how great and beautiful I am, everyday, without prompt.

Ive never had a relationship that lasted more than a month. I was always unsure of my feelings but I feel completely different about my current boyfriend.

I was out the other night and a drunk friend of a friend told me "Oh that's great but it will end cause in college, it just does. It happens the most loved up people" - This scared me. Something I really didnt want to hear because our relationship does not feel like its going to be temporary.


How do you know it's love? And is it crazy to think he's the one? Do relationships survive college?

Miss Fluff

I know people who have gone on to marry people they met in college.

Ignore what people say and stop second guessing it. You both sound really into one another so enjoy every moment of it rather than over-analysing and speculating on where it may or may not lead. You're both smitten kittens so enjoy it.

ElleEm

Ignore your "friend". Relationships survive if the couple want it to.
Enjoy your boyfriend now x

Firetrap

One of my best friends met her now husband in college. Ignore what other people say. If your boyfriend is right for you, you'll last the pace.

Contessa Raven

Pay no attention to your friend. How can she possibly know what will happen in YOUR relationship?
I met my bf in college. We're still together after 4 and a half years and this is it for us.

I would say though, that it is very early days in your relationship and you are both in that honeymoon stage where everything is amazing and you rarely annoy each other. So for that reason, I don't think you will know for sure if he's The One just yet.

If you like your boyfriend and it's all going well then carry on as you are and pay no heed to your friend. Enjoy your relationship.

LegacyUser

I met my Partner in college. We were madly in love from the outset and are still going strong EIGHT years later!!!! Getting married soon and househunting at the moment.

Don't mind your friend, sounds to me like they are a bit jealous.

Sounds like you are really happy in your relationship. That is all that matters. Enjoy it!

LegacyUser

Thanks guys, nice to hear about people meeting their OH in college.
It's just, no other guy has had this effect on me. Or treated me so well either. I feel something for him that I never have with exes.
I look forward to exploring our relationship and seeing where it leads.
I know, I know I'm "love sick" but.. I see him long term when I look at him. Something I never saw in anyone else.

CathyMoran

Ignore your "friend" she is just jealous. I met my husband in college so yes these relationships can and do last.

Squiggler

I'm just another one going to say that I know a lot of great and committed couples who met in college and have been together since (some heading for 20 years together!).

Wowbagger

1) How do you know it's love?

(There are some say that if you have to ask then it's not!)

I dont agree....... you just know!!! I knew I was in love with my OH about 30 seconds after meeting her, and I still am after 29+yrs.

2) Is it crazy to think he's the one?

Not at all !! Again I knew she was the one and only.

I cant answer the 3rd question having never been to College but relationships survive life
but need attention at times

FWIW I agree with the previous post re jealuosy, it's a very strong emotion. Enjoy your new relationship and have fun.

Cheers

W

triseke

I met my fiance when I was in secondary school. Now its 7 years later and we are planning our wedding. If it feels right, go with it. Ignore whoever told you that these things don't last. By sheer virtue that so many posters have met their partners in college/school, it is possible

Zen65

unregisterednamegirl wrote: »

How do you know it's love? And is it crazy to think he's the one? Do relationships survive college?

I have been with my wife for more than 25 years. We met in college.

However, you're only together with your current boyfriend for 2 months, so don't get too taken with the idea of this being an ever-lasting love. Take each day as it comes and enjoy it for what it is. In a year's time if you are still together then maybe it's time to ask yourselves how serious you want this to be.

Be at peace,


Z

LegacyUser

Thanks guys. Some great positive feedback here.
Just one more thing.. Should I wait until he says I love you first? How long do you wait until it's acceptable to say? It feels like it's going to burst out of me everytime I see him... !

Contessa Raven

Say it when it feels right but don't expect to hear it back. Some people take a while to say it because they want to be sure they mean it.
I'm a big believer in actions speak louder than words. If he's treating you well and is being attentive and loving, then the words will follow at the right time.

Flashgordon197

I wonder about people who meet around 20 and marry. Do they tend to stick together? Is there any stats? Its a long life! Im not sneering at people-just curious if there is any data.

Maple

Flashgordon197 wrote: »

I wonder about people who meet around 20 and marry. Do they tend to stick together? Is there any stats? Its a long life! Im not sneering at people-just curious if there is any data.

This is not the forum for you to request data on this topic.

Going forward please keep all replies relevant and directed towards the OP.

Maple

i124Q

unregisterednamegirl wrote: »

Thanks guys. Some great positive feedback here.
Just one more thing.. Should I wait until he says I love you first? How long do you wait until it's acceptable to say? It feels like it's going to burst out of me everytime I see him... !

I(male) was with my girlfriend for about 6 months and then she said it to me one night. I was afraid, I knew I was in love because I had never felt like this about anyone before.

Its easy to say when you are in love because it comes from the heart and it just feels right!

Eve_Dublin

Awwww young love! Great feeling OP, so enjoy it. Never mind what your friend says...how does a girl of that age know what's in store down the road? Listen to us who are older and have been there, done that. 3 of my very close friends are with their men since they were 20. One just got married and has a baby on the way. They're all incredibly happy. Good luck with it all!