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unknown feelings

  • 20-10-2011 6:15pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Sorry about the long story!

    I was seeing this guy on and off for a couple of months 2 years ago but he was more interested in me then I was in him.
    I used to see him on nights out a few times and we'd always be civil to each other.
    3 months ago I saw him on a night out and I was having a bad night out not feeling great about myself and knew he would always cheer me up and if we got together again so be it.
    He told me he had a girlfriend and had been together over a year ad he was happy.
    I was genuinely thrilled for him and said that to him.
    I ended up getting with another guy tht night and didn't think any more about it!
    Except last night for some strange reason I started to think about him and kind of felt sad at how much I missed him.
    I went on facebook and by strange coincidence it was his birthday!
    I knew it was in October but I didn't know what day.
    I left a message saying happy birthday.
    When he told me 3 months ago I was fine about him having a girlfriend.
    I just don't know why I'm thinking about him now.
    Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated thanks.


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  • #2
    parrai
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 500 ✭✭✭parrai


    conflicted wrote: »
    Sorry about the long story!

    I was seeing this guy on and off for a couple of months 2 years ago but he was more interested in me then I was in him.
    I used to see him on nights out a few times and we'd always be civil to each other.
    3 months ago I saw him on a night out and I was having a bad night out not feeling great about myself and knew he would always cheer me up and if we got together again so be it.
    He told me he had a girlfriend and had been together over a year ad he was happy.
    I was genuinely thrilled for him and said that to him.
    I ended up getting with another guy tht night and didn't think any more about it!
    Except last night for some strange reason I started to think about him and kind of felt sad at how much I missed him.
    I went on facebook and by strange coincidence it was his birthday!
    I knew it was in October but I didn't know what day.
    I left a message saying happy birthday.
    When he told me 3 months ago I was fine about him having a girlfriend.
    I just don't know why I'm thinking about him now.
    Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated thanks.


    Maybe 2 years ago wasn't the right time...


  • #3
    G-Money
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,199 ✭✭✭G-Money


    Either you genuinely miss him or you're just lonely/bored/horny.

    Sorry to break it down like that but I find one of those two categories is usually correct. Just be honest with yourself about which one it is.


  • #4
    Micklaus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 38 ✭Micklaus


    It's probably more to do with your own loneliness than your actual feelings for him.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    parrai wrote: »
    Maybe 2 years ago wasn't the right time...


    yeah I've thought that too I've grown up a bit since then.

    I think I do miss him because I don't feel lonely but then again not sure.


  • #6
    human repellent
    Closed Accounts Posts: 100 ✭✭human repellent


    I don't see the point here, he's told you he has a gf, and is happy.

    end of.


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    human repellent wrote: »
    I don't see the point here, he's told you he has a gf, and is happy.

    end of.


    Im not trying to break them up or affect his happiness.
    I'm trying to just sort out my feelings for him.


  • #8
    Dolbert
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,154 ✭✭✭Dolbert


    You liked having him follow you around like a lovesick puppy as it was an ego boost. That's what you miss, not him. Move on.


  • #9
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    conflicted wrote: »
    3 months ago I saw him on a night out and I was having a bad night out not feeling great about myself and knew he would always cheer me up

    There's your answer. Except now he's no longer available to you and is happy with a new girlfriend. You probably could do with a boost and now he's with someone else it has probably made you think you like him more than you actually do.

    If he was single I'd say get in touch again but he's with someone else now and has said he's happy so I'd leave him to it. Maybe it's a case of him being the one that got away but I'd say more likely that you are maybe feeling a little lonely or in need of a boost and the rose-tinted glasses came on at times like that.


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