feel cheap

Janet1986

Hi guys, i just feel awful about myself

I met a guy three weeks ago and we got on well, we had sex etc

He now wants me to sleep with him and his other male friend and asked me do i mind if he gives my number to his friend :eek:

I got very angry and upset at the thought that he doesn't give a **** about me.

I said it to him and he said he only wanted me to be 'comfortable' with his friend.

He's gone cool with me now

Am i over reacting?

MildredW

Oh my god! NO you are not over reacting! This "man" sounds like a right a**hole!! Please dont feel bad as you have done nothing wrong. Think of it as a lucky escape. The very fact he has gone cool with you now speaks volumes of he was only after one thing. Put it down to experience and give this man a wide berth from now on. YOU deserve better!

Neyite

How does having sex with a friend you have never met make you "comfortable" with him? :rolleyes:

Tell him you do mind, very much in fact, if he passes on your number, and furthermore that you want him to delete your number too. That is, unless you have talked to him about maybe trying a threesome?

He wants you for the shag. If you want a relationship then he is not the one for you. No, you are not over-reacting

fungun

er, no. You are not. Why does he think this is ok, did you guys speak about this at all? Or is it possible you are misinterpreting what he means?

If not, run, run, as fast as you can

Distorted

What a chancer! Tell him to get off, except don't be polite or mince your words. Ignore all future texts from him, change your number if necessary. You've just been unlucky in a total ****hole trying to use you. I can't believe some guys; I gave my number to a guy at a disco for a laugh one night, cue multiple texts telling me "you must have sexual needs myself" suggesting I meet him for sex. Had no intention of meeting him at all, but don't be vulnerable or think you have to be polite with this piece of ***t, just ignore/block/delete.

And for anyone who wants to play the "threeseomes are cool as long as all parties are up for it card", it doesn't sound like the OP has any interest in threesomes whatsoever.

floorpie

Unacceptable and bizarre behaviour, let him stay cool with you and cut contact completely.

parrai

Drop him

Beruthiel

Why do you feel cheap Janet?
He's an asshole and you should never see him again.

aidan24326

Beruthiel wrote: »

Why do you feel cheap Janet?
He's an asshole and you should never see him again.

Exactly.

You have no reason to feel cheap at all, you've done nothing wrong. He sounds like a d1ckhead and you'd be better off staying away from him. Himself and the friend have been watching too much porn by the sounds of it. Tell him to take his suggestion and stick it where the sun don't shine. And if his friend has the cheek to contact you tell him to fcuk off and all.

ABajaninCork

Get rid. Change your number (In case he's taken the 'liberty' of passing it on to his scumbag mates). End of story.

It's NOT your fault he's a total douche bag...

Miss Fluff

Janet1986 wrote: »

i just feel awful about myself

You're mad to let him make you feel like that. He's just a tosser who is chancing his arm so it's no reflection on you whatsoever hon.

I'm mildly disturbed by your statement that he's gone cool with you followed by a sad smiley however. I hope you're not actually thinking of seeing him again are you?

Regardless of how much you like the guy, him trying to pimp you out to his buddy doesn't show much respect so I'd tell him to fuck off and not bother you again.

Giselle

Miss Fluff wrote: »

him trying to pimp you out to his buddy doesn't show much respect so I'd tell him to fuck off and not bother you again.

Hey Janet.

He tried to cheapen you, but know you know what your worth is, so walk away. The wrong person is feeling bad here.

If you ever doubt you're doing the right thing, read the sentence quoted above and count your lucky stars you did the right thing.

If you can block numbers, do that. If his friend contacts you, don't respond.

Good luck, and don't feel bad.

Katgurl

Oh god you poor thing Janet, I really feel sorry for you and actually understand why you feel cheap.

About a year ago I copped of with a 'friend' at a wedding I had always had a flirtation with and actually really liked. Laden with booze we found ourselves in his hotel room pretty fast. We had sex but the moment (literally THE moment) he was done he jumped off me and grabbed his clothes with lightning speed and said he was going back to party slamming door behind him. I was left naked in his bed having not even caught my breath. I felt in all truth, like nothing more than a cum receptacle.

I know it's less severe than your circumstances but I really really felt like a piece of garbage afterwards. I think this is natural but you have to remind yourself that HE is the messed-up one not you and you are not responsible for his bad behaviour.

You have done nothing wrong.

Ignore his messages. If at some stage in the future when you don't give a damn anymore, you run into him you can tell him calmly then what a pathetic scumbag he is trying to intimidate you into something you'd no interest in.

Best of luck. Forget him.

Janet1986

Thanks guys,

He had a threesome years and was into some wild ****.

He mentioned it to me but i didn't give a definate answer, he then went away and had it all arranged.

It didn't/will never happen now.

parrai

Janet1986 wrote: »

Thanks guys,

He had a threesome years and was into some wild ****.

He mentioned it to me but i didn't give a definate answer, he then went away and had it all arranged.

It didn't/will never happen now.

The problem is he took you for granted by assuming you would have a threesome, had discussed it with his mate and presumed it ok to pass on your number!!! He has zero respect for you...

Firetrap

You just found out he wasn't who you thought he was. Be glad it was only 3 weeks of your life you wasted on him. Not 3 months or 3 years.

Miss Fluff made a great point as well which I think is worth repeating

I'm mildly disturbed by your statement that he's gone cool with you followed by a sad smiley however. I hope you're not actually thinking of seeing him again are you?

I am a friend

Ah hon, you know well this tools actions are no direct reflection on you... He is just an a-hole and lucky you escaped.

I would probably reply and say 'pass!! Don't want any reminders of our woeful night'...

A0

Janet1986 wrote: »

Hi guys, i just feel awful about myself

I met a guy three weeks ago and we got on well, we had sex etc

He now wants me to sleep with him and his other male friend and asked me do i mind if he gives my number to his friend :eek:

I got very angry and upset at the thought that he doesn't give a **** about me.

I said it to him and he said he only wanted me to be 'comfortable' with his friend.

He's gone cool with me now





Am i over reacting?

No you are not. Dump him, straight in the bin.