friend has left the country

LegacyUser

my 1 and only real friend has left to go travelling for the next year or two, and im finding life so boring and depressing without her, ive nobody to go or do anything with, i spend all my spare time wishing i had the money to go travelling or sitting looking out the window miserable, i dont think ive ever being so depressed in my whole life, ive being on anti depressants before, but i never felt so lonely as i do now!! shopping alone cinema alone its just not the same as going with friends any1 got any advice?

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Hi op don't be upset is the first thing ill say and I know its easier said than done! I'm in a similiar position where in the past few months a good ten of my friends have gone off to oz travelling and more are going before the end of the year. I know exactly how you feel. Get in touch with old friends or friends you haven't made an effort with. What age are you op? Look for a job to build up your money and go travelling even? Easier said than done I know in the jobs department! But being proactive and looking for a job is the positive boost you need! Your not alone op start by going on walks that will give you a little boost! I'm feeling down myself but lifes to short to be unhappy and I'm going to live in the now and get proactive!good luck op xx

LegacyUser

its such a horrible feeling, i feel so lost, i depended on this friend too much and didnt really boder with other friends im seeing that now, im 24 cant afford to travel on low wages im just so miserable never felt so low

ABajaninCork

Would it be possible to apply for a working visa to say, Oz, NZ or Canada?

Yes, you'll have to save a bit first, but it might be an opportunity to widen the social circle.

Or - You can keep in touch with your friends via e-mail, Skype, Facebook, Twitter or plain old pigeon post! I'm in the opposite position. I moved away from friends and family. It's tough going, but we do our best to keep in contact.

Try to be the owner of your own happiness. Don't be so dependent on others to make you happy.

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upset girl wrote: »

its such a horrible feeling, i feel so lost, i depended on this friend too much and didnt really boder with other friends im seeing that now, im 24 cant afford to travel on low wages im just so miserable never felt so low

op I know how you feel but even try save a little bit each week! Your 24 your in the prime of your youth get out there woman chin up pal things ALWAYS and I mean ALWAYS get better!! Can you not head out the weekend with a few of your work mates?! You need a night out and a bit of cheering up are you able to contact those friends you haven't been that close to?! I really know how your feeling and I'm not saying leaving and going travelling is your answer but I find its helping me saving little bits to get me closer to going! Xx

Firetrap

You're the master of your own destiny. You might not be able to go travelling now but you could start putting money aside for that if it's possible. I know you mentioned low wages but even a few euros a week would help.

In the meantime, have you thought about what you could do to broaden your social circle? Socialising with your workmates is a good idea if that's possible.
Are there any things going on locally that you could get involved with? Any family members who might go along with you to them if you're feeling a bit bothered by going alone. These friends you lost touch with when you focused your attention on this one friend - perhaps you could renew those friendships?

Much as we'd like friends to magically materialise on our doorsteps, it doesn't happen that way. You might not think it now but you're never too old to make new friends. Sitting in at home is only compounding things. What have you to lose by trying to get out there and meet more people?

baby and crumble

OP, in the last 2 years all of my friends at the time (and my partner) moved across the globe. I was like you, really miserable. Then I said to myself, "Self, you need to take care of this!"

So I joined a few social groups that fed my interests, and now I have a few more good friends to hang around with. You should also try to reimagine your alone time. Use it to do something, maybe take up a hobby. I know that sounds trite. But if you think of something you like doing, and do it in your spare time, then when you do push yourself to meet new people, you'll have something to talk about.

You should try looking at www.meetup.com, to see what interests you. Fact is, there are thousands of people in the country in the same boat, having to stay here while everyone else escapes.