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Lonely Gay Guy at 34 years old

  • 17-10-2011 9:02pm
    #1
    ChurchStreet
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 47 ✭


    Hi there,
    I'm a 34 year gay man living in Cork. I only came out when I was 27 years old and I thought my life would be so much better as a result. However, I have never been able to find a partner, somebody that I could spend the rest of my days with. Somebody that I could share the challenges of life with, somebody to love and be loved by. I keep falling in love with straight friends of mine and it breaks my heart each time, something that just cant be. I'm going to meet the people that run the Other Place in Cork during the week to see can I meet and chat to people in a similar position. Meet people through social outings or sport activities and develop from there. Surely, I'm not alone....


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  • #2
    TylerIE
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,635 ✭✭✭TylerIE


    There are lots and lots of people in the same position, both gay and non-gay.

    Do you do any activities like sports or groups or voluntary work? Maybe the other place could advise on same?


  • #3
    Mcjmetroid
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 254 ✭✭Mcjmetroid


    I'm feeling pretty similar at age 23. I've been out for some time as well but have never been able to find anyone. It's tough going, I'm settling for lesser than I would have had years ago..


  • #4
    ongarboy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,201 ✭✭✭ongarboy


    ChurchStreet wrote: »
    Hi there,
    I'm a 34 year gay man living in Cork. I only came out when I was 27 years old and I thought my life would be so much better as a result. However, I have never been able to find a partner, somebody that I could spend the rest of my days with. Somebody that I could share the challenges of life with, somebody to love and be loved by. I keep falling in love with straight friends of mine and it breaks my heart each time, something that just cant be. I'm going to meet the people that run the Other Place in Cork during the week to see can I meet and chat to people in a similar position. Meet people through social outings or sport activities and develop from there. Surely, I'm not alone....

    Hi OP, you are surely not alone with this dilemma. However, for now, rather than focusing on just finding a partner why not find ways to expand your social circle among the gay community in Cork. The more friends you make, the more social opportunities that arise whereby you can be introduced to friends of friends/acquaintances etc which in turn could lead to finding that special someone when you least expect it.

    Having an active social life and engaging in fun activities/sports/outings etc will hopefully offset some of the feelings of loneliness you experience. You seem to be already taking the initiative by heading to the Other Place and considering other activities. Well done! Try not to solely use them just as opportunities to meet Mr Right though and instead prioritise the making of new friends and just getting involved in new and fun activities/sports etc. Best of luck!


  • #5
    opus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,053 ✭✭✭opus


    ChurchStreet wrote: »
    I'm going to meet the people that run the Other Place in Cork during the week to see can I meet and chat to people in a similar position. Meet people through social outings or sport activities and develop from there. Surely, I'm not alone....

    Friend of mine organises the Out & Active Sports group in Cork which might be of interest.


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