Separate countries.. Can this even work??

LegacyUser

I'm a guy in my early twenties and recently got talking to a really amazing girl online. She is 6 yrs older than I. We have been chatting daily without fail for a month and a half now and both of us seem to have the same level of interest toward each other. She appears to be very attracted to my photos I have showed her, and of course I feel the same toward her in that aspect (she's stunning actually). We can chat for hours every night and we're constantly flirting and talk playfully about what we'd do if we met in person and expressing our desire for the others company.

Now we have so much in common but what's more is we both have similar issues holding us back in life, which connects us on another level too.. However I know deep down that these problems we share may be the very thing that will prevent us from ever seeing each other and being able to form a real relationship..
As well as her living in another country (though still in europe), we are both currently still living with our parents.. and neither of us have jobs (well I do 'work' I suppose but it is not a stable line of work and I don't get much of it).

I also have very little relationship experience due to my life long habit of isolating myself and just a general lack of confidence. I am improving though.. but that is just another weak point of mine as this girl would have had more experience than me.

Anyway that's not the main obstacle.. The main issue here of course is the distance.. What are the chances of this working? I really like this girl and it's not as if I have many options, so telling me to find someone closer is not valid I'm afraid. It's just not as simple as that for me. Plus I like this girl of course. It's her I want. What are your thoughts?

ZombieBride

There will always be reasons why you can't go to her country, but like most reasons they can be overcome, at least in the short term. Why not plan a holiday together, then you will at least know if you like each other offline too.

cliona8969

steer clear of her especially if she's russian... she's scamming you for money!!

happened to my boyfriend before he met me!!

where did u meet her? im assuming u never met her in real life no? ever wondered why? cos shes a fake!! she get you off a dating site?

Siuin

I met my boyfriend on a language learning website when I was 18 and after a year of chatting every night, we met up for the first time on a holiday in Barcelona- we immediately hit it off, he was even more amazing in person, and one year on things are still going great. I went to visit him for the summer and now he's coming to Ireland for Christmas, with plans to move here

These things really can work, but take the time to make sure they're genuine. I really do feel that the internet is a great way to have deep conversations with someone and get to know them as a person rather than skipping straight to the physical. Good luck!

PS my boyfriend is Russian and richer than me, so go figure :P

dory

cliona8969 wrote: »

steer clear of her especially if she's russian... she's scamming you for money!!

happened to my boyfriend before he met me!!

where did u meet her? im assuming u never met her in real life no? ever wondered why? cos shes a fake!! she get you off a dating site?

:rolleyes: Russia has over 141 MILLION people. I think they're a chance one or two of them aren't like that woman your boyfriend met. My Russian girlfriend is only wonderful.

OP, if you want to make it work you will. But as others have said, you have to meet her offline to really know. And in the longterm one of you will really have to move.

MacieC

Aside from the whole Eastern girls scamming project theory, which to my opinion, is not relevant here; I doubt this relationship would work.

Long distance relationships are hard enough already, let alone if you have met the person online, I mean it will be more of an " online " relationship most of the time, even if you two meet.

I think you should call it quits, but that's just my own opinion.