Think im heading for a breakdown

LegacyUser

im in my late 20s single and haven't worked in a while.i have done some courses in my time like learned skills on computers.i live at home with my parents and sometimes don't get on with them as sometimes i feel i been tied to them to do basic chores like shopping,which i don't mind at times.

What has me filled with shame and tears writing this is the mess my life is in,most people i seen my age have relationships or have moved out and living in their own places,i think what held me back is my lack of practical skills in life as i never learned a trade only have brief experience working in retail.i struggled with esteem as i battled with clinical depression for last couple of years.

i have been in brief relationships,but they usually ended with myself been cheated on.

i don't go out much as i feel ashamed to be drinking the dole.

i don't know what inspired me to write,i guess im looking for some hope or suggestions in this thread as today i sat there thinking in the dark.

LegacyUser

ok you say u did courses and have retail experience. Use it!! Do up your c.v and hand them out EVERYWHERE. In the mean time volunteer somewhere, take up extra classes etc. maybe look up courses in university/college whatever. Just stay busy and in contact with peers. Then when u get a new job use the extra income to move into a house share.

I know im making it all sound so simple when in reality it is very very difficult to stay motivated and positive but TRY! Only u can change your life around! Hope things turn around for u.

qwertytlk

Hi, what is stopping you from getting a job now? Even if its not in you area of study, even something in a shop or bar etc? Just so you can be out there working, seeing people..having some purpose and structure to your day!
Is there anything you would like to do as a career? If there is then why not go about finding work in the area that interests you, or getting onto a course that would enable you to get started in your chosen career? I know these things may take a while to happen so you could just get any job in the mean time to tide you over, give you a wage which would boost your confidence. Also you would have more money so could go out with friends in your spare time or even possibly move into a place of your own. Working or studying would get you out of the house and interacting with people, which it seems would bew really good for you. If you cant find work when why not do volunteer work or try get some work experience. These are both great things to put on your cv, aswel as being interesting. You may even get a permenant job out of it.
Tbh, if i was sitting in every day and not going out with friends then i would be depressed too!
As for the boyfriend issue, well if i was you i would concentrate on improving other areas of your life before you start complicating things with a relationship. The men that cheated on you in the past were just immature idiots, so dont let them ruin future chances of happieness because not every man/woman is like that.

In short, if you wamt things to change for you then you need to get up and MAKE them change because no one is going to nock on your door and hand you the key to a ready made life. So get out there and make things happen for yourself!
I hoe this helps. Best of luck.