What would you do?

LegacyUser

Hey, Long story short, on the way to work most mornings i pass an amazing looking girl at the bus stop not far from where i live, id really like to get to know her but i havent the slightest idea of how to go about it, i drive diff car most days cos i work in a garage so no point trying to get her attention by waving every morning and i dont want to just pull over and ask her for a lift,dont want to come across as a stalker. Ideally id see her out sometime and i could say oh your the girl from the bus stop and make a bit of a joke of it and go from there but have never seen her out, any suggestion?

I am a friend

Get the bus as well?

Pandora2

Cill Dara Abu...is that you???

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solovely

You don't know her except that she's good looking. Based on a two second glance every morning what makes you think there could be any potential with this woman? To be honest, while it might come across as romantic to some, I think to most, it does sound a bit stalker-y/ creepy/ shallow. You know nothing about this woman - if she's available, if you have anything in common. You are basing your attraction to her on a passing glimpse. Would you not be better focusing your attention on women you have the potential to actually get to know and talk to? What makes you think this woman would be worth knowing?

If you are intent on getting to know her, you will need to strike up a conversation with her, figure out if you have anything at all in common, rather than just randomly asking her out, based on nothing. As I Am A Friend suggests, perhaps think of getting the bus one day when she is on it, or walking past the bus stop and asking her the time. she must live near you, so there is a chance you will see her out and about, but I'm definitely not suggesting stalking her to find out where she lives. Does anyone you know get the same bus? They might know her, or know something about her?

qwertytlk

Get the bus too. Of shes there evry day and you get it some days, you are bound to get talking! You may not end up liking her but its worth a shot imo. And if the bus isnt an option then could you ask aound, does anyne know her? Best of luck

beagle001

Larry is that you again?

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dr.bollocko

My take on it: Most people who are at a point in their lives where they are single and looking for some romance have a "girl on the bus" type situation at some time in their lives... It's nice to fantasize about what might happen with a beautiful stranger...

But the stranger fantasy is how your mind channels your desire to have somebody to share some time with. By all means, you know, get on the bus, sit down and chat to her and you might learn something from it. But big picture, just get out there. Put yourself in social situations where you can mix with the opposite sex. You start doing that this flight of fancy will just float away.

LegacyUser

Stop the car. Get out. Talk to her:

"Hello. This might seem odd but it's worth a shot. I see you every morning and I've always wanted to talk to you. Would you like to have a coffee sometime?"

Just do it. If I was that girl, I would probably be flattered. Whether she goes for it or not is anyone's guess. Write down your number or a facebook link in case she wants to check you out. Hand it to her in case she changes her mind at some later time.
Chances are she'll not be interested/have boyfriend/whatever but it beats a lot of time wasting on the bus trying to force a conversation and make it look natural.
I will never understand why Irish men make such a big deal out of asking someone out.

beks101

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Stop the car. Get out. Talk to her:

"Hello. This might seem odd but it's worth a shot. I see you every morning and I've always wanted to talk to you. Would you like to have a coffee sometime?"

Just do it. If I was that girl, I would probably be flattered. Whether she goes for it or not is anyone's guess. Write down your number or a facebook link in case she wants to check you out. Hand it to her in case she changes her mind at some later time.
Chances are she'll not be interested/have boyfriend/whatever but it beats a lot of time wasting on the bus trying to force a conversation and make it look natural.
I will never understand why Irish men make such a big deal out of asking someone out.

This. I really wish this wasn't perceived as 'weird' and happened more in Ireland. I'm living in Canada and was approached like this by a guy at work - I was literally walking through the doors of the building, he was coming out and he stopped me. Totally taken aback but utterly chuffed and flattered, he handed me his email and we ended up going out a few times after that.

Just take the bull by the horns and screw the rest. You have precisely nothing to lose here, if she says no or has some kind of adverse reaction, you'll never have to talk to her again.

Go for it OP!