My boyfriend cleans his cock after sex

Mrs Ron Burgundy

Hi everyone,

I'm with my boyfriend, or fiancee i should say, for 7yrs and everytime we have sex he washes his willy afterwards. It used to really bother me at the beginning (made me feel dirty or something) and i hated that he wouldn't just lie with me afterwards. He says its cos his willy gets all itchy and cheesy (i know ewww) if he doesnt clean it and he is obsessively clean so i kinda learnt to deal with.
I guess i just wanna know whether any other guys out there do this?

Billy7878

Mrs Ron Burgundy wrote: »

Hi everyone,

I'm with my boyfriend, or fiancee i should say, for 7yrs and everytime we have sex he washes his willy afterwards. It used to really bother me at the beginning (made me feel dirty or something) and i hated that he wouldn't just lie with me afterwards. He says its cos his willy gets all itchy and cheesy (i know ewww) if he doesnt clean it and he is obsessively clean so i kinda learnt to deal with.
I guess i just wanna know whether any other guys out there do this?

Maybe this is as good as it gets.....

tenchi-fan

Sounds fairly normal. I take a hot shower after thoroughly scrubbing myself with a capful of detol to a litre of warm water.

Ham Sambo

Was that low low or full fat cheese!!!

Sauve

OP I wouldn't worry too much about it,
I've heard of plenty other guys who do the same, and I've often jumped in the shower myself afterwards :rolleyes:

kylith

I know a guy who does the same. He has sensitive skin and says that he gets itchy if he doesn't.

Sonics2k

Basic hygiene, lots of men and women do it.

Really nothing to worry about

Silverfish

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ash23

I thought that was common enough. Maybe an issue if he's jumping up right away and running to the bathroom, but after a few minutes I'd find this to be usual rather than unusual. I'd do it myself. Not a shower but a quick clean.

dafunk

Perfectly normal. It would be more gross if he didn't do this and then expected you to go again!

ted1

i'd give it clean, but not straight away, i'd have a litttle cuddle first.

I am a friend

dafunk wrote: »

Perfectly normal. It would be more gross if he didn't do this and then expected you to go again!

Yeah of course - would you not clean yourself up a bit as well op?

Mrs Ron Burgundy

Cheers everyone its good to know that its not an uncommon thing and at least hes not a dirty fecker who doesn't clean himself. That would be a much bigger problem.

Have to say I kinda wanna know what Billy 7878 and Ham Sambo said that got them banned :O

dearg lady

dafunk wrote: »

Perfectly normal. It would be more gross if he didn't do this and then expected you to go again!

Why would that be such a problem? i think we've become way too obsessed with cleanliness in this country.
Anyway OP, I don't think it's particularly unusual, different strokes for different folks n all that.

Ickle Magoo

Mrs Ron Burgundy wrote: »

Have to say I kinda wanna know what Billy 7878 and Ham Sambo said that got them banned :O

You'll get the answer to that and what else is appropriate/inappropriate for this particular forum here :cool:

Wompa1

I believe the medical term is Smegma, don't get it myself but have heard of lads that do. Don't think it's an uncommon thing. I don't shower right away but do shower afterwards.

petes

Wompa1 wrote: »

I believe the medical term is Smegma, don't get it myself but have heard of lads that do. Don't think it's an uncommon thing. I don't shower right away but do shower afterwards.

Yes but is this not if you don't wash down there on a regular basis? I myself wouldn't get up out ff the bed to go and have a shower after sex or clean my cock, plenty of time for that in the morning or whenever depending on when ye are at it. And as for going again I don't get what the problem is.

Wompa1

Insurgent wrote: »

Yes but is this not if you don't wash down there on a regular basis? I myself wouldn't get up out ff the bed to go and have a shower after sex or clean my cock, plenty of time for that in the morning or whenever depending on when ye are at it. And as for going again I don't get what the problem is.

I didn't know that. So how un-hygenic does somebody have to be to get it?

Mrs Ron Burgundy

Wompa1 wrote: »

I believe the medical term is Smegma, don't get it myself but have heard of lads that do. Don't think it's an uncommon thing. I don't shower right away but do shower afterwards.

He definately doesn't have that smegma thing. He's just a bit OCD and that probably has something to do with it I'd say. He's the cleanest person EVER

Ickle Magoo

Wompa1 wrote: »

I didn't know that. So how un-hygenic does somebody have to be to get it?

Wompa1, if you have any questions of your own could you start your own thread, PM the relevant poster or use google and leave this thread for advice directed at the OP please.

Elmidena

It probably has a lot to do with how he was raised, and started masturbating etc. He might have once seen it as dirty or sex was a taboo and needed to cleanse asap, and then over time it was habit. My partner used to be a divil for going to clean almost immediately, but when I mentioned it to him about it was weird to me, he started spending longer for a cuddle, and didn't feel the need to purge the sin as it were. Nowadays it doesn't bother him at all, and waits until he's off to the bathroom or something anyway.

If he leaps out of bed immediately after orgasm, I would definitely speak to him about it when ye're not about to have, or just had sex. When there's no heat in the moment, or panic to clean then there's more of a chance for diplomacy etc without distractions. He should be able to compromise and cuddle for a little while some of the times at the least, so you both can have a bit of what you want

RandyMann

Is it me or are the mods here a bit OTT ?

Ickle Magoo

RandyMann

As that's the third ban you've picked up in the forum now, I'd expect you to have read the rules and not use other people threads to soapbox your opinion of forum mods.

Back on-topic.

Vicxas

I had to do this with an ex of mine, as there was something that was happening during our sex that if i didnt wash afterwards it would become incredibly itchy and swollen.

So it could be because of that.

tinkerbell

OP, why does this bother you? He's just washing himself after, it's no big deal. Maybe he just wants to be all cleaned up after sex to be comfortable again.

Darkginger

It would bother me if he jumped out of bed immediately after the act to go clean himself - it would seem like he felt soiled by contact with me! Howsabout you gently suggest to him that it would be far nicer if you went and showered or bathed together afterwards, perhaps washing each other? That way it's a continuation of loving, not something that somehow makes it all seem...well...dirty, I suppose. After your mutual cleansing session, you could snuggle up together - just seems more intimate to me.

thefireinside

I would suggest having some anti-bacterial wipes or some such in the top drawer by the bed, he could clean up fairly thoroughly in his groin area to allow for some cuddles

Since you mention he is a bit OCD in general he might shower anyway shortly enough after but this might delay it a bit!

LegacyUser

No, it isn't that common. I've had my share of fun and I've only run across this behavior once before. It was with a particularly obsessive person, naturally.

Most people are comfortable waiting till the afterglow has subsided to clean up, or even going for sloppy seconds (sloppy seconds, not neat and tidy seconds).

Darlughda

Fair enough if he needs to do so for medical reasons, but if can't explain to you this - that's odd. Just ask him why, tell him you find it strange, and a block to intimacy and let him tell you?

ElleEm

I don't think it's strange at all.
Both myself and my partner always get up and have a quick clean/ wash after sex. We're back in bed two mins later, but we're fresh and clean so can get cosy together.

Wompa1

Wompa1 wrote: »

Insurgent wrote: »

Yes but is this not if you don't wash down there on a regular basis? I myself wouldn't get up out ff the bed to go and have a shower after sex or clean my cock, plenty of time for that in the morning or whenever depending on when ye are at it. And as for going again I don't get what the problem is.

I didn't know that. So how un-hygenic does somebody have to be to get it?

Don't know if I should answer, but it might not have anything to do with being unhygenic - they could shower every day but not think to pull down the foreskin and clean there.

I shower always after sex, but not right away.

IvyTheTerrible

ElleEm wrote: »

I don't think it's strange at all.
Both myself and my partner always get up and have a quick clean/ wash after sex. We're back in bed two mins later, but we're fresh and clean so can get cosy together.

Have to say me and my partner are the same. It feels nicer to snuggle after when you are nice and clean. I wouldn't let it bother you OP, it would be much worse if he wasn't washing himself!

Liam Byrne

Can be a tough issue, especially as it's sometimes nice to - as someone else put it - "enjoy the afterglow" curled up together.

But it can be sticky and a little uncomfortable, so the alternative is to clean up a bit so that you don't end up getting up later and disturbing a comfortable position.

So that puts a 'normal' decision at about 50/50 - add in what you said about 'cleanest person ever' and that's guaranteed to skew the normal 'will I/won't I/can it wait' balance.

Kiera

Myself and my BF would use baby wipes after the deed to clean up any mess then snuggle until the next round

Its perfectly normal.