In the words of john lennon

ShaveTheWhales

"I'm just a jealous guy"

I can't help but feel envious of every person i meet. I analyse aspects of them that i like and wish i had that and it makes me resent them. You might think this sounds normal but i do it with EVERYONE. Its all i really think about.

I don't really know how to stop it. I have a lot of problems with myself mainly. Like skinny arms and the fact that I'm not great in long conversations. I've been to a councilor at my college about it and he told me it was a positive thing that i only see the good in others.

Not sure how that's supposed to help me though..

dr.bollocko

ShaveTheWhales wrote: »

it was a positive thing that i only see the good in others.

It looks like the other side of this is that you're just looking for reasons to bash yourself or put yourself down.

You state there that you're concerned about skinny arms and not being great in long conversations. I reckon these might be just two throwaway examples of things you are self conscious about. This points to a lack of self confidence which is causing you to negatively compare yourself with others.

It would be dumb to suggest you stop thinking in this manner, however the possibility exists that you could take some positive steps toward self-improvement in the hope that this in turn improves your self-esteem. For example, if you have skinny arms you could get to the gym or work out at home. Not good in long conversations? Well how do you know? Have you got this feedback from others or is your opinion on this tainted by your negative view of yourself?

lau1247

the grass usually seemed greener on the other side.. but more often than not there are underlying issues that you don't see..

besides life's too short to constantly analysing everyone.. just be yourself, work on your own issues to keep yourself occupy and other will be eventually be envious of you and your achievements/status that you currently see in other people.. by that stage, it probably won't even register in your head anymore..

also it is important to accept that there are too many people in the world and there will always be someone that does something better than you so just be happy with yourself and what you have..