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  • 05-10-2011 11:23am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm well educated, multiple qualifications (including post-grad) but have been unemployed for the last year. I recently got a permanent job offer. Up till now it has been temporary contract work in unrelated fields, just little jobs to get by. I'm delighted.

    One of my aunts has sent be a congratulations card and in it was a cheque for €1,000. She is retired from a good job and the money to me would make a huge difference, however, I feel this is far too much and would be very self-conscious of accepting it.

    Should I accept it?
    Should I tear up the cheque?
    Should I take part of it and return the rest?
    Any other options that I haven't thought of?
    I just got it and have not thought it through, so maybe I am just using boards as a sounding board but I would like some opinions and/or similar experiences.


Comments

  • #2
    dafunk
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 817 ✭✭✭dafunk


    Accept it graciously! Your aunt wouldn't have given it to you if she didn't want you to have it and she couldn't afford it. Just make sure you tell her how much you appreciate it and put it to good use rather than flitting it away on nights out or something and let her know what you've spent the money on.

    Maybe think about spending it on something related to your new job, either putting it towards a car or on a new suit / clothes for work so she know you're putting it to good use. When you get your first paycheck bring her out for an extravagant thank you dinner :)


  • #3
    Firetrap
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,442 ✭✭✭Firetrap


    Thank her and tell her how much you appreciate it. If you tear it up or try to give some of it back you'll insult her.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Accept it in the spirit it was given to you. It's a nice gesture and not excessive, in some people's eyes.


  • #5
    Katgurl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,145 ✭✭✭Katgurl


    That's lovely and I hope that when my nieces are entering employment I will be able to help them out.

    Defo accept it and as previous poster said don't squander it. Work clothes, bike, car, training, investment all good ideas.

    I'd suggest cooking dinner for your auntie either in your place or hers and giving her thank you card with a little pressie - maybe print out some sentimental pics or something.


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