Inviting Mother In Law to Hen Night

R.D. aka MR.D

I hope this is in the right place!

I don't want to go into too many personal details but basically the question is- Is it the done thing to invite your future MIL to your hen party?

My mum hasn't been invited and she is put out. Personally i am too on her behalf (I have been invited!!) But maybe this isn't the norm?

It's not some crazy night away or anything it's a sit down meal and then onto a nightclub. Should the bride have at least invited her to the meal?

I honestly have no idea so any thoughts would be welcome....

xalot

It probably would depend on the relationship but I brought my Mother in law to my hen and would have considered it rude not to invite her.

Is the bride inviting her own mother? If she isn't then I wouldn't be insulted.

Moonbeam

No it would not be the normal thing to do but if they get on very well it would be acceptable.

Toto Wolfcastle

It probably isn't the norm but I'll be inviting mine. I can't think of a reason not to invite her tbh. If you get on well with her then it's nice to invite her.

dammitjanet

Maybe find out if the bride's mother is going? It could be she wants to keep the group younger so that she can go a little crazy for the night and not have to worry about embarassing herself?

Surely there is no "norm" when it comes to hen parties, its every hens own prerogative who is invited and the nature of the party / celebration, so there are no rights or wrongs.

However as a previous poster stated, if her own mother is invited and the mother in law isnt, it would appear to be a bit of a snub alright.

R.D. aka MR.D

Thanks everyone!

I guess it's not a situation that has any etiquette rights or wrongs. She isn't inviting her mum but her mum is much much much older than my own mum.

It still feels like a bit of a snub but we'll just have to deal with it.

tinkerbell

OP, if she's not inviting her own mother (regardless of her own mother's age or not), then you and your mom shouldn't really be put out over this or think it is a snub.

Me - I will be inviting both moms.

The Big Red Button

It's definitely not the generally done thing - even if she WAS inviting her own mother! It only really happens if the bride is particularly close to the MIL.

nicowa

Again, it could be the age group of her friends. They're wild and more than likely expected to be very saucy on the night and you SIL-to be might feel she'd be very embarressed in front of her future MIL if that were the case. I'm sure it's not meant as a snub. In my case, it'll be a very quiet night - we're going to see a musical in London, possibly cocktails as well, so again, can't see a reason not to invite her if I'm inviting my own mum.

triseke

I wont be inviting my future MIL. Just think its kinda odd. I won't be inviting my own mum either.

Monife

I had my mum at the dinner part of my hen night but not the after part, that would have been MEGA embarrassing seeing as my friends had organised a stripper!!! Didn't invite MIL because she doesn't live in Ireland and was only travelling over for the wedding, but would have invited her to the dinner part if she had been here.