2 Girls.... Am I an a$$?

LegacyUser

Split from 5yr long term girlfriend a year ago. Bitter reasons, lost all trust in women and everyone! Think im over that phase of my life but the last 12 months have been crazy to say the least. But I have never dated two girls at once...

Story is:

Ive been txting this girl i met online for about 2 weeks, getting on grand. Gona meetup Friday night for the first time. She seems nice and from the way she goes on she is very physically attractive. I only have a small pic but I do like what I see. She's 8 years younger than me, 21. Im 29

Ok.. was out last saturday and met a girl, got on really well. She is same age as me and we got on so well, she invited me back to her house. We went back but nothing happened, we just talked all night and I left in the morning. I really like this girl, connected well and we are meeting up again Saturday night... the night after the first girl..

I feel really guilty txting the first girl, never met her, but she sounds really nice... Right now I am more attracted to the girl I met at the weekend but one never knows who she is or what she's really like. I dont want to put all my eggs in the one basket without even looking at what the baskets have to offer! Although saying that, Im a bit afraid of the younger girl cause .. Ive been there with my ex and it turned out nasty, I dont want to go through that again, and she seems to be a bit green. Like ive gone through nasty stuff, so has the girl the same age as me but the younger girl is a bit naive to the world i think... I dunno, am I a twit meeting up with the two of them??

I am a friend

Ah there is nothing wrong with testing the water for a few dates as long as you are not leading either up the garden path. Op, as you know, these girls, even if similar are not your ex so give both of them a chance and ENJOY

beks101

No, you're not an as5.

You haven't even met the first girl yet so 1. you owe her nothing, 2. you met her online - chances are she's texting other men too, 3. there might be fcek all chemistry, 4. you're single, you can do/see/text who you please.

Stop fretting, have fun!

How Many Users

when you say nothing happened with the second girl, did you even kiss her? I don't think you are an ass, it's quite common to date multiple people.

Miss Fluff

I think it's perfectly ok to date more than one person at a time. As long as you're not leading anyone up the garden path or misleading them then I think it's ok to keep your options open.

Wompa1

Depends on your personality. I tend to be very honest which can just lead to problems. Even when you've done nothing wrong. It may be a case you get into a relationship with this new girl and she asks about the last girl you were with...if it was me I'd feel inclined to tell the truth event though it just never ends well...if you are too honest like me then think about it strategically.

If you don't want a relationship with either. Go for it.
If you do, decide how you'll handle the fallout if/when it happens.

solovely

Wow, you sound really nice and sweet to be worried about such a thing, but seriously, you have nothing to worry about. Dating is not exclusive, when people want to be exclusive, they have conversations about it. You couldn't possibly think of being exclusive with somebody you haven't even met in person yet. Just go with the flow with both girls and if it comes to the stage of really liking one or considering sleeping with one, then just let the other girl down. Not too much to it really. Enjoy the popularity and adoration while you have it.

LegacyUser

OP here... Thanks guys, I really wasnt expecting those kind of responses! Makes me feel a bit more relaxed

when you say nothing happened with the second girl, did you even kiss her? I don't think you are an ass, it's quite common to date multiple people.

Yes we kissed and went to her bed but kissing and getting a bit touchy feely was as far as it went, just talking and having a laugh then for the rest of the night.

My plan is to see them both once or twice and then make my decision of which one of the girls to stay with (if they want me ofcourse!) and stick to it. Just hope I dont get a black eye in the process! I dont want to hurt anyone

I am a friend

Ah they can't say anything as long as you are not dating both of them long term and/ or sleeping with them. Enjoy

Overheal

They're much more progressed about this in the States. Never watched Saved by the Bell? Most people in Ireland date 'exclusively'. But, there's nothing wrong with dating 2 or more people at once. It's just normal that when things get serious (love, sex, etc) you declare yourself for one or the other and stop stringing along the other(s).