adults moving back home in the recession?

ilovesleep · 03-10-2011 3:50pm #1

Are there much adults moving back home in this recession.and if so how are you finding it?

hondasam · 03-10-2011 3:54pm

I think the question should be how are the parents finding it.

Snakeblood · 03-10-2011 3:55pm

hondasam wrote: »

I think the question should be how are the parents finding it.

Mine changed the locks.

TheZohanS · 03-10-2011 3:56pm

Another kick in the teeth to those of us that are adopted...

deathrider · 03-10-2011 3:56pm

ilovesleep wrote: »

Are there much adults moving back home in this recession.and if so how are you finding it?

Should be handy enough to find. It's the same address.

hondasam · 03-10-2011 4:00pm

Snakeblood wrote: »

Mine changed the locks.

TheZohan wrote: »

Another kick in the teeth to those of us that are adopted...

Move to Galway I will give ye both a room for free.

OutlawPete · 03-10-2011 4:01pm

I did and my old uniform was still there on the hanger, so I stuck it on and went down to my old school and joined the line for my old class. Everything looked so small. Doctor reckons it's some kind or breakdown or other.

BlastedGlute · 03-10-2011 4:03pm

hahahah id ****in love to do that hahahaha

*the uniform thing above I mean, not move home, although i have a lovely home and mother it'd kill my ego haha*

Snakeblood · 03-10-2011 4:04pm

hondasam wrote: »

Move to Galway I will give ye both a room for free.

No webcams. I don't want it to get weird.

ilovesleep · 03-10-2011 4:07pm

hondasam wrote: »

Move to Galway I will give ye both a room for free.

Oh, can I have that room please?

03-10-2011 4:08pm

The thing is why would you expect that you could just move home when ever it suits you if you are an adult.

Don't take it for granted..expecting to be able to dip in and out of your family home as it pleases you is not going to endear you to your parents.

Agricola · 03-10-2011 4:10pm

OutlawPete wrote: »

I did and my old uniform was still there on the hanger, so I stuck it on and went down to my old school and joined the line for my old class. Everything looked so small. Doctor reckons it's some kind or breakdown or other.

I still have my old secondary school tie and jumper somewhere. It would be epic to just turn up one day and sit beside some tiny 13 year old. Not epic in a sexy way either before someone implies it.

hondasam · 03-10-2011 4:11pm

ilovesleep wrote: »

Oh, can I have that room please?

There is another free room, you can have it. Hope you like living in the sticks.

Sooopie · 03-10-2011 4:13pm

ilovesleep wrote: »

Are there much adults moving back home in this recession.and if so how are you finding it?

Across the road from my mam's place a lad in his 30's has had to move back in as his marraige has broken up.

I really feel for him when I think of him, can't imagine what it must be like, soul destroying really.

deathrider · 03-10-2011 4:14pm

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Agricola · 03-10-2011 4:15pm

deathrider wrote: »

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CarMe · 03-10-2011 4:15pm

No way, parents raised us, fed us, clothed us and had us living there for 18+ years.

Oranage2 · 03-10-2011 4:15pm

hondasam wrote: »

Move to Galway I will give ye both a room for free.

ilovesleep wrote: »

Oh, can I have that room please?

hondasam wrote: »

There is another free room, you can have it. Hope you like living in the sticks.

I've seen how this ends - Human centipede!

ilovesleep · 03-10-2011 4:15pm

mariaalice wrote: »

The thing is why would you expect that you could just move home when ever it suits you if you are an adult.

Don't take it for granted..expecting to be able to dip in and out of your family home as it pleases you is not going to endear you to your parents.

It's the last resort. I've lived in poverty for the past couple of weeks doing my best to meet the rent and bills only one bill - the esb bill. Which is usually low. I couldn't afford food for the past couple of weeks.

Home is just a stopping of block for a couple of weeks until I find another place within price.

Do you want me, and others like me to take ourselves and our belongings to the streets?

Do you want us to eat from bins perhaps so that we can afford the rent?

spoofilyj · 03-10-2011 4:16pm

Oh God no!!! I love my folks to bits but I could never live at home again, even when I visit for longer than just a weekend, the situation reverts from an Adult dynamic back to Parent child... No thank you very much, plus I get on with everyone much better by living away from home. Its win win!

ilovesleep · 03-10-2011 4:17pm

Oranage2 wrote: »

I've seen how this ends - Human centipede!

Im already ready living in the sticks

Oranage2 · 03-10-2011 4:18pm

CarMe wrote: »

No way, parents raised us, fed us, clothed us and had us living there for 18+ years.

I never asked to be born.

So as far as I see it my parents are responsible for raisnig, feeding and clothing me till the day I die!

hondasam · 03-10-2011 4:22pm

Oranage2 wrote: »

I never asked to be born.

So as far as I see it my parents are responsible for raisnig, feeding and clothing me till the day I die!

Do you think I could ask mine for €580 to tax my car.

Chuck Stone · 03-10-2011 4:27pm

Agricola wrote: »

I still have my old secondary school tie and jumper somewhere. It would be epic to just turn up one day and sit beside some tiny 13 year old. Not epic in a sexy way either before someone implies it.

So you're saying you find 13 year olds attractive is it?

:pac:

03-10-2011 4:28pm

Don't be silly of no parent want to see their child homeless and mine are welcome home any time, that not what I am saying.

Always ask and don't expect, have a plan of how you are going to sort yourself out, your parents or anyone's parents aren't a fall back position in life. I am not getting at you but it dose amuse me somewhat that its almost taken for granted that parents will always be ready to have their adult children move home.

starlit · 03-10-2011 4:35pm

mariaalice wrote: »

The thing is why would you expect that you could just move home when ever it suits you if you are an adult.

Don't take it for granted..expecting to be able to dip in and out of your family home as it pleases you is not going to endear you to your parents.

Some people have no choice in the matter! They do so until they find a job and can afford a place of their own. Life is hard it can be tough but this recession is even tougher!?:(

Though its harder for adult children to live with their parents again and is just as hard on the parents still if given a choice in the matter we wouldn't be living at home with the parents but if there was a job and able to afford a place all together not just one of those things but two of those things would some people have the choice of not living with the parents!?

03-10-2011 4:41pm

Perhaps I am not being clear of course parents want to help their children why wouldn't they love them ( most of the time )

But if you spend your life moving in an out of your family home, that is taking them for granted.

hondasam · 03-10-2011 4:46pm

mariaalice wrote: »

Perhaps I am not being clear of course parent want to help there children why wouldn't they love them ( most of the time )

But if you spend your life moving in an out of your family home, that is taking them for granted.

I agree with what you are saying and I think kids up to a certain age might do this but not older adults.
For some kids home is their little safe haven to fall back on, think of the nursing home fees they will be paying for you.

mickrock · 03-10-2011 4:55pm

I've moved back home with the mother.

I'm thinking of sticking her into a nursing home though as she's quite old now and isn't much good at cooking and cleaning. And she hogs the telly.

starlit · 03-10-2011 4:56pm

mariaalice wrote: »

Perhaps I am not being clear of course parent want to help there children why wouldn't they love them ( most of the time )

But if you spend your life moving in an out of your family home, that is taking them for granted.

I really don't think it is, it might be to a parents view but in reality you cannot control what happens in the outside world.

Though I don't condone spending your life moving in and out of your family home that once you move out or moved out a few times and leave then you do so for good and not come back. Its not like they haven't left home like? At least they have there are those who still haven't left the family home yet until well into their 20's or 30's even!?

For me, I didn't leave home until I started working, came back for a few months until I found a job, did so but wasn't enough to keep me going by moving out so stayed put until something else cropped.

After all that decided to go back to college, left home this time as for my degree I hadn't far to go from home so stayed at home for those few years while this time round I had a good bit further to go for the course I wanted to do so had to travel, leave home and move out.

I was so hoping that I wouldn't have to move home again, I knew I would on a temporary basis until I got a job and could leave home again. I be out like a shot and not move back ever again if I got something permanent but no I am still at home! I cannot afford to leave home without a job to finance it.

Otherwise I pull my weight when needs be, I don't expect to parented and looked after! I do things for myself for the most part but then there are times its like the case of 'too many cooks spoils the broth kind of thing' and just let my parents be parents or end up arguing over who does what and so or complains etc. We just about get along, trying to have a life of our own is difficult but I suppose you learn something new everyday I suppose despite it being hard. In all honesty I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I wouldn't be so quick to move home again if that were the case and I wouldn't be rushing to visit so often either like I used too.

I have found that I don't get on as well with them since moving back compared to when I was living away from home. Though that's probably that I am an adult child now. You can't help how things happen like? Its all part of life and its part of growing up though there is that new generation of adult kids out there I suppose its hard not to get moulded into that sort of thing!?

Learning to be an adult is a tough life to follow its not and never going to be easy there are bount to be a few bumps and roller-coaster rides along the way but life isn't meant to be a walk in the park!?

03-10-2011 5:23pm

ilovesleep wrote: »

It's the last resort. I've lived in poverty for the past couple of weeks doing my best to meet the rent and bills only one bill - the esb bill. Which is usually low. I couldn't afford food for the past couple of weeks.

Home is just a stopping of block for a couple of weeks until I find another place within price.

Do you want me, and others like me to take ourselves and our belongings to the streets?

Do you want us to eat from bins perhaps so that we can afford the rent?

If you really have no other choice, that's one thing, but a lot of people my age (mid-twenties) and even older seem to view their parents' house as some sort of rent-free hostel, a way to save money while still living it up every weekend and buying expensive clothes and shoes because they don't have to pay any rent. That's using your parents, IMO. I was talking to a colleague about South America and said I'd love to go travelling for a few months, but it wasn't practical, as I'd come home broke with no job and no money. He asked why I didn't just live with my parents for a while and save up. I told him it wasn't possible, as they live in the middle of nowhere, so I wouldn't be able to work, but anyway, I doubt my parents would be delighted at having their 20-something 'child' land back at home after a six month holiday while they'd been working hard every day.

OneArt · 03-10-2011 5:25pm

If I were ever in a truly desperate situation I would consider asking if I could crash on a friend's couch first. I know I would do the same for any of mine (well most of them!).

It's a bit of a lame excuse really unless one is in a dire situation. If I had children I would rather help them out by buying them some groceries and letting them try and take care of rent/bills. Besides, it often demotivates people when looking for a new job. If finding a job means keeping the roof over your head, then a person is going to FIND a way of making it happen.

chopperbyrne · 03-10-2011 5:29pm

I have to for the next few months. Going to try avoid it if I can by moving in with my brother for a while instead.

ilovesleep · 03-10-2011 9:39pm

What's with the idea that some adults are moving back home to take advantage of their parents and behave like kids with their parents slaving around after them?

I and I'm sure many more like me who has to move back home would be pulling their weight around the home - chores, doing groceries, paying towards bills, etc and would be very happy and glad to do so.

So, one end of the scale as been identified here in this thread - adults taking advantage of their parents.

What about the other end of the scale where the parents are taking advantage of their off spring by charging rent. Which would be the case in my situation.

The family home is mortgage free - paid off. I'd have no problem putting money aside every week of says 50 to put towards bills when they arrive - esb, oil, gas, etc. And another 10 euro a week towards the bins. And paying for groceries. Put money towards new appliances when needs be.

Charging weekly rent on top of all this in a mortgage free home is a form of greed and nothing but. So bleeding their offspring dry.

Such parents would bang on then and compare the situation to a LL.

I'd have some questions:
Are they going to be declaring their extra income to revenue, you know like a LL?
If you weren't going to be at home and the room is free - would they rent it out?

A LL is out to make a profit on an extra property by renting it.
Such parents are out to make a profit of their adult offspring by renting out their childhood room.

OutlawPete · 03-10-2011 9:50pm

mickrock wrote: »

I've moved back home with the mother.

I'm thinking of sticking her into a nursing home though as she's quite old now and isn't much good at cooking and cleaning. And she hogs the telly.

Put some cocaine in her complan.

ilovesleep · 03-10-2011 9:52pm

mariaalice wrote: »

Don't be silly of no parent want to see their child homeless and mine are welcome home any time, that not what I am saying.

Always ask and don't expect, have a plan of how you are going to sort yourself out, your parents or anyone's parents aren't a fall back position in life. I am not getting at you but it dose amuse me somewhat that its almost taken for granted that parents will always be ready to have their adult children move home.

Many times down through the years when my mom needed help I was happy to help her. Not only that but was happy and delighted to put money towards doing up the house and much badly needed repairs. There's give and take you know.

stovelid · 03-10-2011 10:03pm

ilovesleep wrote: »

Charging weekly rent on top of all this in a mortgage free home is a form of greed and nothing but. So bleeding their offspring dry.

Boo fu#king hoo.

westendgirlie · 03-10-2011 10:05pm

I doubt I'll ever need to but I know there is always a bed for me at home. That's what family is all about. Why else would we say "going home to see the folks"?

Same when my own kids leave home...... If they wanna come back, it's off to granny n grandad for them too!

OneArt · 03-10-2011 10:29pm

ilovesleep wrote: »

What's with the idea that some adults are moving back home to take advantage of their parents and behave like kids with their parents slaving around after them?

I and I'm sure many more like me who has to move back home would be pulling their weight around the home - chores, doing groceries, paying towards bills, etc and would be very happy and glad to do so.

So, one end of the scale as been identified here in this thread - adults taking advantage of their parents.

What about the other end of the scale where the parents are taking advantage of their off spring by charging rent. Which would be the case in my situation.

The family home is mortgage free - paid off. I'd have no problem putting money aside every week of says 50 to put towards bills when they arrive - esb, oil, gas, etc. And another 10 euro a week towards the bins. And paying for groceries. Put money towards new appliances when needs be.

Charging weekly rent on top of all this in a mortgage free home is a form of greed and nothing but. So bleeding their offspring dry.

Such parents would bang on then and compare the situation to a LL.

I'd have some questions:
Are they going to be declaring their extra income to revenue, you know like a LL?
If you weren't going to be at home and the room is free - would they rent it out?

A LL is out to make a profit on an extra property by renting it.
Such parents are out to make a profit of their adult offspring by renting out their childhood room.

That's all well and good but at the end of the day it is still their home and you are living in it.

ilovesleep · 03-10-2011 10:39pm

OneArt wrote: »

That's all well and good but at the end of the day it is still their home and you are living in it.

Living in it like a rat?

eternal · 03-10-2011 10:43pm

Link to the thread about killing people.

starbelgrade · 03-10-2011 10:46pm

ilovesleep wrote: »

What about the other end of the scale where the parents are taking advantage of their off spring by charging rent.

Maybe they're trying to tell them something.

Jaxxy · 03-10-2011 10:48pm

What's all this about moving home to save and treating the house like a hotel!?

You live at home you hand up money to mammy. Them's the rules.

adults moving back home in the recession?

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