Would you let your father in law live with you? newly married

LegacyUser

Just need your advise please
My father in law and husband and another guy have all being working together in the UK for the past few months.

They have been working in various parts of the UK and staying in travel lodges. My husband and father in law have been working for a long time, My mother in law lives in Ireland and has young kids due to this my father in law has to work in the UK to provide for his family as that's the reason while he working in a different country.

Now i'm looking for a house to be with my husband, as finely we can together as he got a permanent work base.

We are just a newly married couple with no kids yet, he has been difficult with him working away, now my father in law wants to move in with us, plus the other guy as he works for my husband as they pay his accommodation.
My husband thinks it's a good idea as its helping his father out.
I don't really know what to say or do what do think?
thanks for reading this

I am a friend

How long is this for? Will they contribute to the bills?

Have you been living with your husband for long?

The Lovely Muffin

Abie 1234 wrote: »

my father in law wants to move in with us, plus the other guy as he works for my husband as they pay his accommodation.
My husband thinks it's a good idea as its helping his father out.

Does he actually want to live with you or stay with you for a few weeks/months etc?

Personally, I wouldn't like to have any in-law's (or their friends) live with me and my husband (if I was married, I'm not), whether I was newly married or married for 10 years.

I would have no problem with them staying for a few weeks until they got themselves sorted, but not to live with us indefinitely.

If they were yo stay with you for a few weeks/month/indefinitely I would absolutely expect them to contribute towards rents/bills/food etc, it would be very, very unfair of them to expect to stay with you for free and have you foot bills/food etc.

As well as contributing financially, I'd expect them to help with any washing/cleaning/tidying etc. After all, if they are staying/living there for a prolonged period it's only fair that they chip in and help wherever they can.

I can understand where your husband is coming from with having his dad and friend stay there.

What are your father in law and his friend/work colleague like? Are they interfering/lazy/nice/tidy etc? If they are the interfering and lazy types I definitely wouldn't have them live with you indefinitely as it could cause problems for you and your husband.

Why can the father in law and his friend/work colleague get a place of their own instead of living with you? Genuine question, not being smart.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Big Bag of Chips

Would you let your father live with you?

LegacyUser

Take it from me. It's a recipe for disaster. It will turn into a lads digs and you will end up silently fuming. Are they messy? Will they hog the TV to watch sport? Will you end up having to stew silently in your room while they all laugh in the living room, feeling lie a spare one in your own house!?

No. Way.

Just google parent in law problems. Don't touch it with a bargepole. It will drive a major wedge between you and your husband.

CarMe

In this situation, absolutely not. If he was very ill then yes until he got better.